You are here

smcpaw's Blog

Another Question

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Thu, 07/20/2006 - 1:20pm

The biomom planned a surprise birthday party for my BF's daughter (Sweet 16). I think that the biomom should have invited my boyfriend even if her daughter and my boyfriend are at odds. If it was a surprise, she wouldn't have a say and that way my boyfriend could have made a decision whether to go or not - and I do believe he would have went regardless of how bad the relationship is right now - he is just trying to be a parent and make his daughter understand that she can no longer conduct herself the way that she does and needs to become responsible for her actions...

I so want to say I told you so - but I won't

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Thu, 07/20/2006 - 1:15pm

My boyfriend finally took a stand and told his daughter that she was no longer welcome in our home until she changed her attitude and learned to stop disrespecting and being defiant and had her mother come and get all of her belongings, right down to the bed in her room. I felt it was a little extreme, but something had to change. Mommy dearest gladly came to the rescue and continued to make excuses for her...

Happy Birthday

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Wed, 07/12/2006 - 7:10am

to me. I'm always writing in the negative, but today is my B-day and my boyfriend is the most wonderful guy in the whole wide world. He gave me a card last night that sounded like it was written just to describe our love for each other. He woke me up this morning with coffee waiting and a happy birthday note in the bathroom. He asked me if I wanted to go out for dinner or stay at home and he would cook us dinner - I chose to be at home with the one I love. My daughter is in California on vacation with her godparents, but left a voice mail at 12:30 a.m.

Finally Fed Up

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Mon, 07/10/2006 - 5:51am

My boyfriend's daughter went to a party on Saturday with her biomom (on our weekend) and then she had to work from 5:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. When we picked her up she wanted us to stop and get her a calzone, which we did (we had already had dinner earlier). We went home and my boyfriend told his daughter that he would be waking her up around 11:00 a.m. the next morning to spend some time with her before she had to go to work at 5:00 p.m. Well, 11:00 a.m. the next day he woke her up and she screamed at him telling him she was tired and to leave her alone.

Meddling Ex

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Sat, 07/08/2006 - 5:59am

Well, my boyfriend's daughter came as scheduled yesterday afternoon after summer school. She stormed into the house, could barely say hello (only after her father asked if she was going to say hello) went in her room and pouted. My daughter passed her driver's test and came home. The daughter then sprang alive and went to the store with my daughter (again, against my wishes - she is supposed to be grounded).

Discipline 101

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Fri, 07/07/2006 - 5:54am

Well my boyfriend did what I told him he should do - he called the exwife and told her that (1) he felt the daughter should have a punishment of 2 weeks, no phone (mom took the cell phone, but dad let her use our house phone), no sleeping downstairs with my daughter in her room, no seeing the boyfriend for 2 weeks; and (2) he questioned the mother as to why she let the daughter go to the fireworks with the boyfriend the mother forbidded her to be with when at our house? The mom responded that she gave in that one time (isn't that all it takes?).

Should Have Known Better

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Thu, 07/06/2006 - 5:47am

My boyfriend's daughter is back from her mini-vacation with her mom. I knew it was too good to be true. I spoke to the biomom before they went on vacation and we discussed that the daughter should still have consequences from her sneaking out of the house with the boyfriend her mother so adamantly didn't want her to be alone with.

Peace

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Fri, 06/30/2006 - 5:05am

Well, I finally slept last all night for the first time in a long time. My BF's daughter left last night to go on vacation with her mother (she left her mom's house 3 weeks ago and cause all kinds of problems at our house, and now she is rewarded by going on vacation before she starts summer school). I did take it upon myself to call her mom and tell her everything that has transpired since she snuck out of the house. I just felt that her mother should know that she has shown no remorse whatsoever, has not had proper punishment for the crime and has caused extreme turmoil at both homes.

P.S.

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Tue, 06/27/2006 - 5:37am

My daughter and I had a long talk and unfortunately she is not as forgiving of my boyfriend as I, and rightfully so. She really didn't do anything wrong and is being punished more than his daughter, who caused this problem. I am hoping my daughter in time will learn to forgive my boyfriend, but blame really should be placed on the person who caused all this, his daughter. He has a hard time accepting that his daughter is at fault - she has been manipulating both her parents for 15 years and nothing is ever her fault!

Weekend Warrior

smcpaw's picture

Submitted by smcpaw on Tue, 06/27/2006 - 5:29am

Well this past weekend was much of the same. My daughter came to me upset because my boyfriend was still giving her the cold shoulder because of what his daughter did (she snuck out to be with her boyfriend that she is not supposed to be alone with and my daughter didn't tell on her). Meanwhile, I was out taking his daughter to her therapist. After my daughter came to me, I again addressed it with my boyfriend and it blew up into a huge argument.

Pages