The Green Eyed Monster
Ok Ladies - Here's one that has nothing to do with the kids...
I have worked for the same company for 15 years. My boss is 3 years older than I and has a wonderful wife and 3 children. We have been through thick in thin with my father's death, my divorce and problems with my children. He has always been very supportive and flexible. We work well together and respect each other as professionals and he treats me as one of his family members.
That being said, when his father died (who I was also very close to - he used to come into the office and have me type letters for him, etc.), my boyfriend accompanied me to the wake. That was the first time my boyfriend had been in the company of my boss. When going through the receiving line, my boss gave me a kiss and I introduced him to my boyfriend. I never thought anything of it. When we got home, my boyfriend was livid at my boss first - he felt he made him look like a jerk and that at me because I never should have allowed it to happen. We went round and round and finally dropped it. He went on to say that I was gullible when it came to guys and that it was a betrayal to him that I would ever show any kind of affection...
I also work for a surgeon part-time doing his transcription. My daughter had to have surgery to remove a sliver from the bottom of her foot. Again, my boyfriend and I were in the waiting area and the doctor came out after the surgery. The doctor (who is also very close to me and his wife, who works in the office and I are very good friends - the doctor is married with 4 grown children)gave me a kiss on the cheek and I introduced him to my boyfriend. Again, he was very upset and so on and so forth.
I feel it is strictly innocent. My boyfriend doesn't. Any suggestions on how to deal with this and get past the jealousy - I have never given my boyfriend a reason to suspect that I would ever leave him for another man, let alone my bosses. Help!!!
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Yep, my DH is like this,
Yep, my DH is like this, too. Prime example, some nights when I get home from work, he looks at me and makes comments like "hmm, how many guys hit on you at work today?"...and it infuriates me! First of all, it sort of makes me feel like I'm dressed provocative for work or something - which is not the case at all! I dress completely professional when I go to work - sometimes that comes across as sexy to some people though. Anyway...second, just because your ex cheated on you with people that she worked with does not mean I would ever go there - ain't gonna happen! So I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that he is insecure over what happened to him before. I reassure DH every time that I am not like that and I would never give another man the time of day. I don't know what else to tell you - I've been putting up with this for going on three years and it hasn't changed - maybe one day!
Ya Know...
My dh doesn't get butthurt if a friend were to hug/kiss on the cheek..but I work with some seriously uptight people (no offense), that believe it is morally unacceptable to "touch" any other person of the opposite sex for any reason...that includes hugs.
At my wedding, my dh and I stood at the receiving line, hugging a couple of hundred people, and one of my co-workers came to my wedding, and he and his wife, would only shake our hands. It is in their religious culture that you just don't hug/kiss anyone accept your spouse/kids.
Perhpas if you bf is not one of those individuals, and just thinks that there is more to these men that he thinks you are seeing, how about having a conversation with him letting him know that even IF these men had different intentions that you just weren't interested...after all..you are choosing him..right? Is there any way you and your bf, could have a social dinner with your boss and his wife, so that your bf could get to know these people? I know there is some gray area about having dinner with boss's and workers, but is there any way your bf would have a chance to get to know him? If your bf knew him, then maybe he would KNOW this is totally innocent.
I hope I helped...
Bests,
Candice