I asked SS if he was going to be in the wedding, and he said yes. That is wonderful, but it is irritating that she schedules it for a weekend that we are supposed to have him and has not said one word about it to us. She has only asked us to keep him Spring Break which is the week after that. And she did not even say why, but told my mother-in-law that they were going to Hawaii. All this is no problem, I just wish she would communicate more effectively instead of just assuming that everyone is going to do as she plans. What if we had planned something for that Saturday? I would not even know what the wedding date was if I had not sneaked a peak at her registry. I asked SS and he said he doesn't even know.
But what really makes me feel that no matter how fake nice she is to me, I can't even look her in the face, much less act nice to her, is what she is doing to her new husband. Not that I care about him, but it just exemplifies how she treats people in general.
My mil asked SS if he wanted a baby brother or sister, and he said that his mom said she was thinking about having another baby. First of all, I think I would establish yes or no on that question before I agree to marry someone. But TH to-be has never been married or had children and wants some of his own. Well, BM had several abortions when she was around age 16, which my husband did not know about until they were married (and TH to-be probably has no clue about). This caused her to have a weak cervix, and she was on bed rest, plus had to have an injection to keep her from going into labor when she was pregnant with SS. He was still born premature because she got tired of having to stay in bed and told my husband, "We are going to the doctor TODAY because I want this thing out of me." I don't know if she meant the needle in her leg or the child.
So I can just imagine that she will not willingly get pregnant again because it will most definately mean bedrest for her which will mean that she will not be able to work which will mean that she will lose money (she is a hairdresser) which she certainly will not want to do. It is just sad that this guy is wanting to get married and have "a child of his own" as SS put it, and she is just leading him along thinking she might do it, but she knows for sure that she won't because she is too selfish to have another child. She is in the marriage for what she can get out of it, and when she is done with him, she will kick him to the curb like she did the previous two.
But she will get what she deserves in the long run. I have no doubt about that. She will be old and alone with no one to love her because of the way she has treated people all of her life. I am just sad that SS gets caught in the emotional crossfire of all her manipulative relationships.