Thought all this bs with FSD16 was done. Nope, lucky me, Precious Mommy is at it again and making me the devil when I've done nothing since the last dustup with her back in what, January? I can't keep track of the whining anymore.

Even though we had it all out in beginning of February, screaming and arguing and putting it all out about how FSD16 is supposedly all upset that I'm just so evil to her precious victim mother and somehow I am now controlling her father (after 5 years? what? was I just warming up?) apparently FSD16 is still pissed off at me.

I haven't even LOOKED at BM since January. I have purposely avoided her at all costs and even blown off some of FSS12's basketball games to avoid her and avoid the constant drama. My FDH isn't thrilled I am not coming with him but he's been supportive. I have also done my best to disengage with FSD16 as much as humanly possible.

Last three weekend visitations, she's been a brat. Totally rude, sullen, withdrawn. I've just dealt with it and made FDH handle his own kids.

As a favor to FDH, I agreed to pick the 2 kids up on the Friday of the last visitation because he was taking our dog for surgery (metacell cancerous lump removed, thankfully, the dog's fine). While FSS couldnt shut up talking to me, FSD sat there in the passenger seat like she was ready to jump out of the moving car with tension. I even asked her if anything was wrong and she's like "NO. FINE." Not worth my time or my energy so I just talked like nothing was happening. Luckily my kids and I had an overnight youth retreat to go to for our church so I wasn't around her for the weekend. Shocker, she was fine after we left, all chatty and friendly to her father and brother. We come back Sunday morning and she's a snot again. Even my kids are getting pissed now at what the hell is happening.

Last Tuesday was normal visit w their dad - she decides to whine about how lousy a DRIVER I am during ride home from dinner at my FDH's parents house when he happened to criticize someone on the road. FDH snapped and went off, asking her what the hell her problem is lately. They got in huge argument and when they got back to BM's, FSD went inside to change into karate gi so he could drive her to practice. FDH made BM come out and let loose on her. Wanted to know why FSD knew all about a private conversation they had that Sunday night about what was up FSD's butt. I suddenly become hot topic again.

Apparently, BM has been pouring venom into FSD as has FSD20 about me. Which is rather odd, considering I haven't done anything lately to warrant it and trust me, I don't do shit with or for the 16 yr old anymore unless I absolutely have to. Everything's my fault, I was mean to BM, I did this, I did that, wah wah wah. FDH went off on BM and then laid into FSD again in car on way to karate and told her he had warned her that her mother pulled this with FSD20 and is now doing same to her. He thought FSD16 was better and smarter than this, etc etc etc.

I'm a little hurt but it's interesting. FDH is MUCH more upset and angry than I am. I'm just disgusted and not willing to deal with it. Ironically MY BIOKIDS are now furious over this latest drama. They don't want to harm their relationship with the future stepsibs but they are sick and tired of the 16 yr old's attitude too.

Disengagement is working for me emotionally. I am sad it had to come to that but I am much better. Pathetic that BM has nothing better to do with her life than try and turn her kids against me. Go for it. You're not hurting me, lady, you're hurting them and their father. FDH is ready for a showdown and it's gonna be a tornado when it comes.