Yesterday on my post some people suggested forgetting about BM, and i want to do that. I get that I can't fix her (or her kids) but forgetting it hard when my SO keeps dragging me back in. He tells me thing that suck me back into the soap opera that is BM's life. What should I do about that? Him and I are long over do for a heart to heart so do I toss that in with it?

The example this week is...

BM has called BF about every day so far this week. Tuesday I understand because SS4 start school. But yesterday she called to say that she straightened out he school bus (which we are more than capable of setting up for our weeks) then before hanging up she said "Okay, talk to you tomorrow" BF fired back with why are you going to talk to me tomorrow? She stuttered and said she was confused. So she called him today to tell him that SS6 wanted to talk to him about joining cub scouts, which totally could have waiting until Sunday.

BF calls me all upset because he does not want to talk to her. He vents and complains about her, but I always said why didn't you tell HER this? I told him to start calling her out on this stuff, only he can stop her from bugging him. Plus she calls him at work to tell him all of this junk. I told him to stop picking up, if it's important she would leave a message. She just wants to talk to him and though she is managing to keep it about the kids now, it's stupid stuff.

I know that he needs to vent but should I ell him not to vent to me? I told him once not to complain about it unless he is going to go something about it. And he and I talk about her a lot - too much if you ask me. I WANT to get her out of my head.