You are here

the story of the boy who cried wolf

SisterNeko's picture

I feel bad but has any one else had this issue. SS4 cries and throws fits about every little thing. So by the time he gets to something that he really should cry about, I am so sick of hearing it. I just want to snap at him.

Well last night he threw up and then screamed bloody murder, like a baby. It was so annoying. I get that he is sick but to me crying about it seems counter productive (makes him feel worse). But he is 4.5 years old and still can't tell us why he is crying. Had we not seen the 'puke' we would have been guessing as to what was bothering him.

I am watching him today and he starting crying when I shut the TV off, but he needed to sleep which he will not go to sleep if TV is on. Then he cried something for no apparent reason. I just keep telling him, don't cry just sleep. I think he wants to be coddled because that is what BM's does (i think) but I am not a coddler and he is not my favorite child. But I have managed to refrain from snapping Smile

Does this make me a bad person?

Comments

Anywho78's picture

It most certainly does not make you a bad person!

My resident Skids were pulling this crap when I met them 3 years ago...at the ages of 5 & 6! After having cared for MANY children who just weren't like that, it drove me bat sh*t crazy.

Growing up, there was a song/video about the Boy Who Cried Wolf...I found it on youtube & the SKids LOVED the song but somehow completely missed the point entirely...they just thought it was a cute/funny song...how a point that is so totally obvious can be so easily missed is beyond me, but oh well, that's SS & SD.

I found that both cried looking for different outcomes...SS liked the "attention" while SD wanted you to feel sorry for her & change your mind on whatever it was that you said "no" to. Sending them out of the room until they finished made it so that at least I didn't have to witness the baby-like snotty break downs. Eventually the tantrums stopped & I no longer have to stop myself from throwing a flip-flop at his/her head over crying...now I have other reasons to keep myself from doing it...but alas, I'm told my my mother that it's part of "parenthood". LOL

SisterNeko's picture

I am hoping that SS4 realizes that crying does not get the desired response from me and will at some point give up. I let him no that the pointless crying upsets, some times even angers me.

I like the book ideas too - maybe a bedtime story is not such a bad idea.

Auteur's picture

Get that story and READ it to SS!

Here are some other recommendations:

1. The Little Red Hen
2. Stone Soup
3. Taro and the Tofu (hard to find; I stupidly gave my copy to the skids and the Behemoth saw to it that the feral peccories shredded it w/o reading one word of it)
4. The Boy Who Cried Wolf
5. The Emperor's New Clothes

simifan's picture

At 4 1/2 he is old enough to use words... once you make sure there is no true emergency, tell him I don't know what you want, you need to tell me the words...

I absolutely hate winers...

Sexybaby's picture

I have the same problem but SS just turned 5 and he still does that. SS5 just wants attention from his dad my DH. I know that's what BM does when SS5 cries. SS5 cries for everything, I hate whiners my bio sons know that they don't whine all. My DH gives SS5 what he wants when he starts crying for anything, then I get mad at my DH. So DH tells me I mean to SS5 because of that I don't give in to SS5.

youngmama1b1g's picture

My SS4 was horrible with crying. He would cry to the point of puking a lot. My H put a stop to it in one night by refusing him even after the puke. He hasnt puked since.

He does get extremely frustrated and will start crying sometimes though... best way of handling it for us- i get on his level, grab his hands, tell him to calm down and take a deep breath- once he gets two good breaths in and out slowly, i tell him to hold it (and enact a silly face as im holding my breath too)- instant smiles and then he tells me whats wrong. i explain whatever the solution is and let him go on his merry way.
And sometimes if im not in the mood for a tantrum, Ill send him to his room to calm down and "come back when you're ready to talk". Sometimes they need the regroup time too-esp as they're trying to forgo their naps Sad

SisterNeko's picture

OMG SS4 does that with BM but not with us. He didn't want to go to the doc and he puked in the car all over BM but BF just picked him up and carried him in puke and all. But i guess he has done that to BM in the past - always gets a trip home (which was what he wanted)

He doesn't do it at our house but I think he knows that it wouldn't bother us.