Because apparently she does get it.

I'll break this up so it's a little easier to follow/comment on.

__________________________________ the meaning of 50/50

BM texted FDH the other day and said that 'they' got a doctor bill for SS4. FDH txt'ed back that he would need to see o copy of the bill so he could issue THEM a check. I questioned it, mind you BM already took FDH for $100 bucks once on medical bills, which is why we ask for a copy now before he pays - and when that happen he called the office and explained the situation to them and they told him at that time they would set it up so that they BOTH were sent bills. He got the money back BTW after he told BM that he called them and sorted out the billing.

So yesterday BM tells FDH that she paid the bill and to just not worry about it. I told FDH um no... He is required to pay 50% of the medical bills so you can't just 'forget' about it and give BM something to use against him later. I suggested that he call the billing department (again) and see if the bill even existed for ss4. If so then I would see how much it was and send THEM a check and they can refund some of BM's money back to her. If is never existed or was BM's own bill again, I would tell her that I called them and what they said. Just to remind BM that he is checking up on her.

_____________________________________________ lying and observation

BM told FDH that SS7 lost his jacket (shocker he loses everything) so she had to BUY him a new one. When he told me and they were inside I picked up the 'new' jacket and chuckled. It was a size too small for starters and it happens to look JUST like the one that SS4 had a few months ago before SS7 broke his zipper and BM got them both NEW coats. Seriously don't lie.

______________________________________ He just wants out

When BM let the sKids out of her van one headed into the house and the other for the back yard. BM snapped at him and told SS4 to go inside - mind you it was a nice day and the sun was still out. FDH chimed in and said no he can go in the back yard if he wants. She was 'no he can't not by himself'. Seriously he is almost 5 and there is nothing in the backyard that he can get into, it's also boarded on almost every side. The kid just wanted to be outside so we all ignored her - including SS4. Of course we keep an eye on him back there just not hovering over him.

___________________________________________ No gifts

You guessed it BM got me something for mother's day - again. And I wouldn't mind it so much if I thought it was actually form the kids. But BM gave it to FDH, SS7 didn't say anything about it and didn't even notice when it 'disappeared'. FDH sat it (a cheap potted plant)on the table and I instantly turned into a crabby witch. I snapped at him to get rid of it and my mood didn't improve until it threw it out.

On a side note SS7 also came in with a red flower. Which he set down - never 'gave' it to me. FDH must have tossed it out too because when SS7 saw the PINK flower i had in the window he insisted that he gave that to me, I told him he didn't give me a flower. After he finally walked off I turned to FDH and asked him if he still thought SS7 didn't have an attention problem. He never gave him a flower and the one he had was red.

________________________ Not Dinner

SS& informed me (as I was fixing dinner) that he had already had dinner. I asked him about it - then I snapped a little. BM drops the sKids off at 5 P.M. Assuming that he had dinner before they came - factoring in how slow he eats, they had to have eaten at 3:30/ 4 O'clock. Um I don't think so, you just have a snack not dinner. Then he told me that he had 2 pieces of corn on the cob, which is better than candy but still not dinner.

Then FDH told him that he didn't care if he already ate - we were going to sit down as a family and eat together like we always do. He told him I would make him a plate and he was to eat what he could.

Of course we finally get SS4 inside for dinner and as soon as I said it was dinner time he headed for his bedroom ( that is where BM feeds them meals) I just laughed and told him he was thinking about the wrong house. There was no fight and SS4 ate good so he must not have eaten before.

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Grant it I can't do much about most of that but I really want to e-mail BM and at least tell her that the gift giving thing is inappropriate and to knock it off. If the boys want to get me something then they need to ask FDH to help them not her. should i? Of just keep getting ticked off and throwing it all away?

Also FDH and I think BM is having money issues but going out of her way to make us think that she isn't - paying the bills and claiming to buy things. Seriously like we care, but she may think that FDH and I are 'rubbing' everything that we have in her face or showing off because we pay our portion of the bills on time and buy the kids stuff when they need it with out making a big deal about it. And we do have nice things but it's all in how you budget. I don't sit there and think OH I am going to get this and show BM or SS7 (who tells BM everything) just to tick her off because they don't have money.

And yes she is a little bitter because FDH never had money when he was with her - because she spent it all on trips and drinks - But now we are doing fine and I don't even have to work to make it happen.

I swear she is a flipping idiot - thanks for letting me vent!