This week has been fun so far... not!

I told FDH this week that - though I would never say it to their faces - BM and HER kids are really kind of stupid. According to the dictionary Stupid means lacking ordinary quickness and keenness of mind; dull. I am just saying

It started Saturday night when SS7 had a panic attack due to being extremely over tired. FDH didn't know what it was but I did - I have had them - The wost thing you can do it freak out with them. So I made FDH sit on the sofa and take notes. SS7 started shaking and saying that his throat hurt, then he coughed and started to gag himself. I gave him some tums and a little allergy medicine - nothing that would hurt him since his issues were mostly in his head. And then I got him in bed. Where he laid there not blinking for awhile - freaking himself out more. So I told him to close his eyes and just breathe. Well he look possessed because he couldn't keep him eyes closed but I just kept calm and repeated - close your eyes and just breathe. In 10 minutes he was asleep - only to wake up at 6 am the next morning!

Now for those of you that have read my blog we have been dealing with SS7 and his sleep issues. We put in him bed same time every day, no TVs, no sugar late at night - it comes down to him just not wanted to sleep. We even have a set time in the morning that he HAS to stay in bed - otherwise he is up at 5 am. After his little melt down FDH asked me "what are WE going to do?" I snapped at him, there is nothing more that I can do short of standing in his room at night and telling him to close his eyes. I told FDH the HE should bring it up at SS7's yearly check up, let a doctor know and do something.

Then on Sunday - I snapped at SS7 for getting us up so freaking early - we were camping out in our camper and of course he could see a clock. When we sent him to lay back down he came back 10 mins later and asked again. Then he fell asleep in the car on the way home. I am so sick of fight them him over HIS sleep.

BM asked us to drop the sKids off early Sunday because it was SS7's birthday and she was having a party. I told FDH if we wanted to be mean we could do what BM always does to us when she knows that we have plans - drop the kids of late, tired, dirty and full of sugar. Grant it they were tired, and a little dirty from camping but no where nears as bad as they could have been.

To top off everything. When we got there the party was already underway! Who has a bunch of peope over when you Ex is supposed to show up and drop the kids off - FDH had a whole list of things to tell her which he couldn't with all the people there and BM was pushing the kids in and FDH out. I told him I would have blurted everything out right there in front of them just to piss her off. But he didn't, he txt'd her after we left to tell her about the panic attack.

Monday or Tuesday FDH got a call from BM saying the SS7 feel off the slide at school and was in the nurses office, but she didn't want to go home. FDH called the school to get more information about how he fell off and if he was ok. He was. Then FDH called ss7 to ask him how he fell off - yup you guessed it, he wasn't going down on his butt like you are supposed to and imagine that it didn't work out well for him. Of course FDH called me through out the day to tell me. When I didn't get excited about it and asked why he was telling me, he said that he thought I would care. I told him I do care but it was SS7's fault he fell. There is nothing I can do about it short of going to school with him and telling him NOT to do stuff that he SHOULD know not to do.

I told him that SS7 doesn't think well for himself. He lacks common sense, and this is where I need a pair of those rose colored parent glasses I guess, because FDH informed me the SS7 was book smart. Yeah I saw his report cards, not book smart either.

And not to pick on SS7 - SS4 has issues too. But that little kid is smart, BM has just made him super lazy because she still does everything for him so he expects everyone else to carter to him as well. His new things is when I ask him to do something that he doesn't want to do he says "Help me" or "I can't do it". To which I respond with "No you Help me" or "Sure you can."

The shocker is FDH told me the other day that I needed to lower my expectations for SS4., Um no you need to raise yours. I have a 2 year old Nephew that can do more than SS4 and I have seen ss4 do things when no one he looking that tells me that he can freak'in do stuff for himself but chooses not to.

Sorry it's so long - But with mother's day coming it all had be thinking... FDH wants the boys to call me 'mom' only because they call BM's hubby 'dad' Seriously I would hope my children would be a little more intelligent than these kids are.

Does any one else find it almost a little insulting when people think those are actually your kids?