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SisterNeko's picture

I kind of saw this coming, BM asked FDH today between parent teacher conferences if she could request that SS4 be in the same class that SS6 was last - because she knows the teacher! I told FDH a long time ago that she would try to get him into the class because I think she got SS6 into the class on purpose and we had nothing but problems last year. Issues to the point where FDH and I drafted a letter to the principle and informed them of the issues.

Basically BM and this teacher are friends. BM called her every week to see how SS6 was doing and the teacher would always call her FIRST no matter who's week it was. BM even went off on us because the teacher told her this or that. It was awful and completely unfair. After the letter things got a little better but the teacher was still different around FDH and I, I am sure we got her in trouble.

FDH told BM that he didn't think it was a good idea and BM gave him a dirty look. I told him to say something again when they meet in April to transition SS4 into kindergarten, when there are other people around to make note of his protest.

Also BM brought her husband to the meeting - it's not that I care but I didn't go because last year she flipped out when I went, because we didn't tell her that I was coming. f-ing double standards.

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Bubbly1's picture

Is custody 50/50? Fh should have equal say as to what class/teacher his child has. Imo.

I was talking the other day with xh and told him of this site and all the horror stories here. Then preceded to thank him and he thanked me for us getting along. We've been divorced for almost 8 years and we're back to being friends like we were in middle school! Its weird, you share history, children, divorce, hate one another for a while, but we're back to being able to communicate and not wanna strangle each other. The fact that we live two states away from each other doesn't hurt either!! Lol.

SisterNeko's picture

Yeah it's 50/50. So she shouldn't be able to do it with out his ok but she tends to do a lot of thinks behind his back, she likes for the teachers to think that they get a long and are on the same page, but they really aren't. I think at least one of the teacher is starting to figure her out.

I think they could get a long better but BM doesn't listen to FDH, she wants everything her way and that's final. That is why they got divorced - he started telling her no - so she left and found someone else to push around. So the only way I could see them getting along again is he FDH caves and just lets her do whatever she wants again, which isn't good for FDH or the kids 90% of the time. Oh and she thinks that FDH is still in love with her, I guess I am just the woman that he is settling for - lol. She flirts and hits on him and I just laugh, oh and she tries to make him jealous.

She already hinted that she doesn't want SS4 to take summer school (last year she said that the school lost all the paper work and didn't tell FDH until it was too late) which is odd because SS4 is 'special needs' but FDH wants him to - is waiting to see what the school recommends though. He has the form and I told him to fill it out that way if BM agrees to it in the last meeting (to save face like she did last year - MOY of course) he can hand it to them with a check and remind them that last year that paper work for screwed up, and it will be a done deal, if BM doesn't take him it will make her look bad but that way she can't say that the school screwed up (which has been the story for the last 2 years). Smile