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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 10/10/2011 - 12:00pm

And just returned it - 2.5 years later! I am so creeped out by this because BM is the one that moved out so that means she had to have taken it with her. She left a ton of stuff (junk) behind but took things that don't make sense, of course she moved out when BF wasn't home and has since been 'returning' things a little at a time. I few months ago she returned some pictures of BF and HIS family, now his birth certificate? What's next?

This woman is like obsessed with 'holding' on to him. It's no wonder her new husband stares at BF when they are at work.

Grant it I made BF return her medical records to her after I moved in. He said he had them and that she had left them behind when she moved out. I told him he shouldn't have them and he legally can't read them/use them in court, it was best to return them. and I get 'forgetting' things but taking things that aren't yours seems really wrong.

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Submitted by Oi Vey on Mon, 10/10/2011 - 12:22pm

I find things get intermingled and get handed over years later.
Hell, DH's XW just gave DH some things she found. They've both moved twice since the divorce and have been separate for over 4 years. Go figure.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Mon, 10/10/2011 - 1:48pm

I agree with the others. When I left my first marriage, I grabbed what I knew I wanted...photos, boxes of things my family had sent me, our wedding momentos & important papers. I packed my stuff in a matter of hours & hauled ass.

In cleaning out our attic (mine & DH's) a couple of years ago, I realized I have the Christmas tree skirt that my ex's grandmother quilted for us & gave us for our wedding. He should have it. She is not my grandmother, & it's something that would be special to him. Here we are a couple of years later, & I have yet to contact him to let him know I have it. It's something I should've done when I found it. I just haven't.

I don't still have it because of some obsession with holding on to him. I still have it because I have no drive in me to contact him.

As far as this: "I get 'forgetting' things but taking things that aren't yours seems really wrong."...I completely disagree. My priority was to make sure I got what was mine. I can give back what was his, but there's no guarantee I'd get back what was mine once I was gone.

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Mon, 10/10/2011 - 1:47pm

Ditto

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Submitted by anyha on Mon, 10/10/2011 - 3:14pm

I still have a bunch of paperwork of my ex's, but that's because i always did the bills and such and kept track of that stuff. If i gave it to him he'd lose it or it would get ruined and since i might still need the documentation i keep it. I didn't look at it though since we broke up (been 3+ years now) so if he had a birth certificate or something among that paperwork i wouldn't even know about it until i went digging to clean it all up.

I'd give it back to him if i found it though. So, it's not totally surprising if she had it if it was thrown in with a bunch of other paperwork maybe. Maybe the fact that it took this long to give it back means she really hasn't thought of him too much or whatever box it was in?

Maybe the fact that she seems to slowly be returning stuff means she is finally getting over him? She might be taking the time to go through that stuff finally and let go of everything associated with it. I'd take it as a good sign.