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The ADHD child and the SAHM.

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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 08/19/2013 - 3:08pm

Stay at home step-mom that is. I don't get a say in treatment but I get to spend all day with the child just that same, how fair is that? Yes I know that is just how it work with step parenting, just need to vent.

Ss8 was tested and diagnosed with ADHD last Monday. During testing each 'parent' present was asked to fill out a questionnaire and the results came back with me being WAY more concerned than both dh and bm. DH and BM don't want to medicate him, fine but I don't see BM adapting her life to the suggestions provided for helping with the 'stmptoms'. Both parents are so worried about school but after spending all day with him I would like a little break from his constant movement, demands, and idol chatter!

It's getting harder and harder to deal with him, especially now that he has been tested and we know what it is. Both dh and BM work out side of the home and they don't understand when me, day care or teachers complain about it. Sure it's not an issue when you only deal with it for a couple hours in the evening EOW.

Seriously considering going back to work but dh and I are trying for a baby and I would like to be home to raise our child. Grrr!

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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 08/19/2013 - 3:27pm

Thanks for this. I will have to talk to him about it. There isn't much more we can do to change they way things work in our home. We pretty much have tried everything but nothing seems to help.

Of course the ADHD isn't the only issue, he also has some anxiety and sleep issues. He constantly worries about everything!

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Mon, 08/19/2013 - 3:32pm

I totally get what you are dealing with. My SS has ADHD as well and I am also the "parent" around the most. Its the unending constant aspect of it that gets to you. Each individual thing could be ignored....but when you put them all together its enough to drive you insane.

Dh works non typical hours so he doesn't see SS from Monday at bedtime until Sunday morning. So he only deals with him on Sundays and after school on Mondays. Then judges me for being frustrated and agitated.