Sadly this is the current situation. If anything be angry with your DH for not protecting himself.
Just know for the next 5 yrs he pays and then it stops. Count down the days and months. I went into this marriage with DH handing over money to BM that accounted for far more than necessary but he signed off on it in court and it was what it was.
... Fast forward 7 yrs and the CS stopped. Suddenly BM wasn't getting xxx$ undeclarable non-taxed income every month (that pissed me off more than the money in truth). We were free and clear of her. If the boys wanted something, they could front up and discuss it with DH and me.

Eventually the obligation will end. It is finite. And in 5 yrs your child will still benefit from the additional income.

I agree with oneoffour. It will be over soon. It stinks but it'll end. Been there done that! Our bm doesn't work, section 8 housing, maxed out food stamps, bachelors and masters paid for by you and me (I'm a chump paying off student loans!) and she works under the table so that's all tax free! On top of her child support. Goes out to eat pretty much daily...life is good for her. Oh it steamed me. Paid the last child support payment ever this month. Felt GREAT! I counted down years, and months too. And your baby may not lower it, but he/she will keep it from going up!

What is the point in doing this when it will simply go to an increase in child support for the BM. The child support system is flawed

Op I get what you are saying. It annoying and the posters who say you knew thus is nit helping the frustration. Of course we knew thus but doesn't make any less annoying or frustrating. It is what it is. And I do think 500 is too much myself. I raised 2 kids and no it doesn't take that much to raise your kid!

We can be supportive and say what we need to say without being jerks and sorry but I think the way it was said is jerky as we all knew our dh have to pay cs but it is still frustrating and annoying that for some reason the first kids always seem to be more important

As one judge has said to another poster's dh on this site, your first obligation is to the child already born, you cannot abandon it because you want to have another family. I believe the judge also advised that they should not have any more kids until CS was done for the first family.

Flip this around and how would you feel if your dh divorced you and wanted to cut support for your bio to have another try at a family with someone else.

Here's the solution - earn your own money. You married a man with kids so no you do not get to be supported by him in most cases.

I truly believe that every woman should be capable of supporting herself and her children. That way you are never at the mercy of some man to stay with you or to not have funds because he is not working or paying lots of CS.

If you don't have skills - well then get some. You can have a lot of control over your earning potential. And NEVER give a man money to pay for another woman's kids.

Really? Can't we all coexist here and even sometimes agree with out someone taking out their claws?

Anyone have a hammer?

I was seriously considering a divorce last year and went to see an attorney, because DH pays BM CS and I make more $$ than him I would have ended up paying him CS even if I had full custody. Why anyone chooses to be the second wife/family is beyond me. Another thing that stinks is the month after DH divorced BM they changed the law from it being a straight 30% of his income to the point where they would factor in the fact that BM out earns DH by about 30 grand a year and his CS would have been lower. That would have been great back in the day when not only did he pay 30% of his income & then 1/2 of daycare expenses in addition to providing their insurance. Thank god he married me so I could pick up the slack What was I thinking.

I used to be really ticked off over the inequality of BM's household versus ours. She didn't work or only PT at times and lived in a new 5 bedroom house (for her and two skids) and had a new vehicle.

On the other hand, in our fixer upper house that constantly had problems with plumbing and/or heating, we BOTH worked FT plus my son worked too while attending school. We drove cars that were many, many years old.

BUT....now that I look back on it (CS is ending next WEEK!!), I learned how to budget and coupon like no tomorrow (BM would have HER groceries delivered - that costs extra not to mention you cannot use coupons that way). We have learned to live on a lot less and soon our household will be getting a big raise while hers will be LOSING that same amount. }:) But I still have that "hobby" of getting great deals that will never go away.