And the PASing begins...
Well go figure since SO stood up for himself SD is to distraught to come visit tonight (he called her out on her lying and manipulation). SD of course still wants him to attend her cheer banquet this weekend though. Shocker. Oh and she still wants to be "in" the wedding also. I told SO that he needs to let her know that no kids are "in" the wedding and maybe since this injury is so severe she should stay home. Also, that maybe let her know that I'm distraught about all the false accusations against my family so maybe she shouldn't come for that reason also.
Another shocker....BM still hasn't provided the name of the dr that wants to do surgery on a "hidden/undetectable" injury. Weird!
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The PAS and Munchousen is
The PAS and Munchousen is strong with my SS too. Who holds the insurance, you should be able to call them to find out who she has been seeing. Also, her primary care doctor will get notes from any specailists she is seeing. I have SS's primary on speed dial and the office manager keeps his file at her desk for me- not even in the file room because of everything going on.
You might have to dig a little but your DH can get the info. As for her not wanting to come- DON'T GO DOWN THAT PATH. Kids don't get to choose. The court order says X- you do X. The end and file contempt if BM won't comply with the order. This kind of thing spins out of control very quickly and your DH will lose his daughter to captain crazy pants in the blink of an eye.
Honestly at this point I want
Honestly at this point I want her to PAS out. I'm tired of the drama but I know you are correct. It is definitely escalating quickly since SO decided not to be their whipping post anymore and to question the BS.
Unfortunately BM carries the insurance. He has been asking for the dr's name since yesterday and she keeps avoiding that. Just saying SD has anxiety now b/c no one believes her injury and she is really hurt and this is golden - it is his fault b/c of his family genes! It does show in the CO that he has a right to her medical files though.
It's unfortunate shes not too
It's unfortunate shes not too upset to be there for the wedding.
Why are you shocked??
You have to make a stand, one Disengage, meaning, who cares if SD gets surgery, or not. That out of your control. SD being in and messing with your wedding is in your control. SD is out of your wedding, don’t care if she attends or not. If she attends, she sits in back with the band.
she doesn’t come to visit this weekend, good you don’t have to not deal with her. More time with your SO, maybe a nice weekend away somewhere sexie. Cheer banquet? Who cares, you are not taking her, or buying her anything. Or paying for it. Hope she has fun
You are correct Harry. I
You are correct Harry. I think it is funny that SD even thinks she is "in" the wedding. I intentionally am not including kids b/c of her and told SO to let her know that she isn't "in" the wedding at all and also maybe she shouldn't come since she is in so much agony. I could care less if she actually has surgery. She won't though. I've heard the "possible surgery" line for EVERY injury (monthly for over a year).
It is also not our weekend to have her so I no longer plan on attending her cheer banquet. If SO wants to go still that is on him but he is also over the nonsense. Maybe we will both be to "distraught" to make it to the banquet. Oh and we definitely aren't taking her or paying for anything cheer/banquet related.
"IN" the wedding?? As in,
"IN" the wedding?? As in, sitting in the back of the church for easy IN/out?
Gads. BM will probably find some quack to do SOMETHING.
LOL, exactly "in" the wedding
LOL, exactly "in" the wedding has never been a plan of mine. I told him to let SD know that no children are "in" the wedding! I really, really want to message her and let her know she isn't "in" the wedding and with the severity of the injury I don't think she should even come at all. I wouldn't want her to fall and hurt it worse....or for any more of my family to question how she got hurt AGAIN!
I'm sure BM will find some way to make this injury more real and severe. She did finally just text him the dr info. Should get interested once SO contacts the dr.
Your SO can call the
Your SO can call the pediatrician and ask them for the name of the doctor who is treating SD's ankle injury. In this day and age of electronic records, all they have to do is look in her chart.
She had changed pediatricians
She had changed pediatricians so SO didn't have that information either. She finally sent the information for the dr. It is a "knee" injury though. I told SO to contact the dr and get the records and also express his concerns about the surgery/etc especially since she is completely fine with putting weight on it and playing around at our house.....
Now she is saying it is possibly a "plica" and not detectable by MRI. If you quickly google it most sites say that "plica" is definitely detectable with an MRI. I'm going to research that now a little more.....
Is her pediatrician listed on
Is her pediatrician listed on the school records? Here, each year the forms ask for the child’s doctor’s name.
Would it be worth the cost of a lawyer letter demanding the name?
It might be. The schools are
It might be. The schools are closed right now for the holiday break though.
BM finally gave him the dr and physcial therapist information. So we shall see what happens now. I thought SO grew some balls but now he is saying he will just go to the next apt. I think he should call the dr now and get the records and express his concern....but SD pulled the "so distraught" manipulation and of course he can't bear to lose his precious.
This is truly sickening.
I hope he's not relying on BM
I hope he's not relying on BM for the day and time of the next appointment. He needs to find out, from the doctor's office itself, when that is. Otherwise, BM may call him at 9 am for a 9:15am appointment.
She sent a text with the
She sent a text with the appointment time and dr name (a picture of the reminder from the dr office). Good point though. Knowing her she will have to change it last minute or make it difficult in some way.
Oh wow...
Its all going smoothly in the skids pre wedding playbook. Whats next, surgery will be the day of the wedding, and BM will demand DH give post surgery care during the honeymoon.?
I wouldnt put it past your dramatic diva SD to actually injure herself at the wedding...be prepared!
I am looking forward to future posts to the lead up to your wedding.
I honestly think BM is more
I honestly think BM is more distraught about the wedding than SD. She was somehow throwing in how long they were together in these texts throughout the bashing him for not believing the injury, lol, I knew the freak out was coming. It will be a bummer if she has to have surgery on that day. We can arrange for someone else to pick her up. BMs parents perhaps. They are much better than us, BM lets us know that all the time! LOL!
I am sure she will do something at the wedding to try to be the spotlight. I'm having a casual wedding so whatever....if she becomes an issue someone else can swoop her away. I know my SM or mom would gladly handle whatever the issue is so I don't have to.
She can't ruin the honeymoon b/c we are too poor for a honeymoon. We are spending 1 night in a hotel and my mom is watching my boys. If BM can't take SD back well then she will be subjected to my awful mother and well BM doesn't let just anyone watch her precious! LOL
Really neither her nor there
Really neither her nor there in whatever ails this kid, but what the heck is she still attending things like cheer banquet?
Per the child (and BM) the kid is half dead and hasn't participated in the cheer at all (with the exception of the initial event she attempted and immediately 'injured' herself). I'd think the team would have moved on without her an her position been replaced with an able bodied young girl.
Let me guess. I bet she gets snowflake special treatment out of this 'injury' at school? Gets to leave classes early to hobble down the hallway , has a friend escort to carry her books, gets to enter and be served in the school lunch room before the other students, doesn't have to dress nor participate in gym . And when she gets home, Mommy dotes and caters to her every whim (getting out of any chores is surely the best part while Mommy struggles to tug on the kid's socks and shoes for her).
Her lastest injury occured
Her lastest injury occured right before the final cheer competition. Amazingly I predicted it prior....it happened the exact same time as last year end of cheer season. I'm sure that is why she didn't make the competitive team last year and this year she made it but they told her she couldn't do the first peformance b/c she wasn't good enough yet. Big difference between the competitive cheer and the squad that didn't require try outs obviously. Her injuries have coincidentally happpened both times after the competitive cheer rejection. The banquet is for the squad that everyone makes though.
Oh and I am sure she gets special snowflake treatment at school and her mom definitely coddles her and caters to her and allows her to get out of what she doesn't want and still participate in everything fun she wants.
Now she is distraught b/c SO called her out on her BS.
Oh and shocking update. She had a PT apt today and they took her off the crutches finally.
Can you
grease the bottom of her crutches and make the operation worth while?
j/k
LMAO, I don't want to add
LMAO, I don't want to add fuel to that fire but I'm still waiting to see what kind of dr assigns surgery for a non detectable/hidden injury!
Oh and I just got an update. SD had physical therapy today and miracuously is able to walk without crutches now! Wooohooo! A miracle!
Omfg. Seriously this is such
Omfg. Seriously this is such damn nonsense.
And it gives me flashbacks to formerSS13, who got SO SICK and/or hurt when he had big assignments due in school...but hadn't done them or a test he was sure to fail. Taken to dr by formerMIL gushing at his "illness". And it would all be so horrible, until the weekend. And omg formerMIL would badger the teacher into giving him 2 weeks extra time...because he was SICK OMG.
All so rediculous.
My prediction is that there
My prediction is that there will be no further doctor appointments scheduled for this injury. Miraculous cure means no more appointments so no need for DH to actually contact the doctor.
Wedding Plans
It is so sad how so very common all of this kind of nonsense is.
I hope you don’t hear from either SD or BM one week before and one week after your wedding. Maybe SO could block their numbers, tell them for any real emergency to contact a close family member and that family member will decide if it is necessary to contact you all and interrupt your wedding bliss. Just an idea!
My SD also enjoys wrapping her ankle and makig a big deal over “injuries”.
Unfortunately SO wants her
Unfortunately SO wants her there. I wouldn't want my kids to be uninvited but she does not have any role in the wedding at all. I'm sure that will make her distraught all over again but I don't want to give her the opportunity to make a scene.
It is sad how often skids and ex crazy BMs cause issues on the new couples special day. I am not going to let that happen. I will not let either of them ruin my day :)