Hello all!

I’ve been a lurker here for almost a year now under a different user name. I had to change before posting because my SS5’s BM is totally the kind of crazy person who would find me here and my old user name was too obvious.

I’ve decided to start posting some of my own. My SS5 is with my husband and me every weekday evening and every 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends. Things are OK – but SS5 has some issues that I find extremely frustrating and I love the idea of having a place to vent where DH won’t think that I hate his kid.

DH is always good about asking me before expecting me to watch his son, which I greatly appreciate. He also backs me up in discipline which I love. The problem is that SS5 is developmentally slow, and is exceptionally difficult to understand when he’s talking. He’s in all the right programs to get it taken care of, it’s just overwhelmingly annoying when he prattles on and on and on and I can’t even begin to understand what he’s saying.

My DH and I are going to start trying for a kid of our own next year, and then plan is that I would be a stay at home mom at least for a while. It raises the question of custody – BM is a horrible lazy person who loafs at her parents’ house and uses SS as an excuse to not be a productive person. As it stands right now she gets the benefit of child support, but only has to get him up for school, then has him for a half hour after school, then puts him to bed at 9 when we switch him back to her after the day. She doesn’t pay any bills and we cover all SS’s needs, so all of the child support goes to her whims so she doesn’t feel the need to get a job. I kid you not; she still has him in a baby style car seat because she won’t buy a $15 booster seat at Walmart. GRR!

Anyway, it’s great to see ya’ll and I look forward to getting to know you all better in the future.