Always Rude To Me
UGH!!!! I am so tired of my BF's teen daughter being rude to me. She is not hiding it now anymore. Her dad sees it and says he will talk to her. Well he has been talking to her all the time and there is still no change. She is a mini of her mother. My BF's EX is mean, rude, always threatening my BF with cs, munipulative and has issues (mental ones). This teen girl is rude even in my own home to me. Today is the last straw. I told my BF I would be very happy if she went to live with her mother. The younger( 16 months younger) one is more acceptable of me and not rude like her sister.
I don't want to hurt my BF but I would like to continue seeing one another BUT only when he does not have the kids. He shares custody and it is a one week on and one week off. I just HATE being around the teen. I have tried to make it work in many ways. Still the same attitude. I know teen years are difficult. I have had four of my own all grown now.
I see a blank future with BF which is sad because we do have something good. Thank you for having a place to vent.
- shouldIrun's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
You have to demand your
You have to demand your respect. My DH's children have been rude to me. Called me names. Even stolen from my children. I wanted to keep the peace so I forgave them many times. With little regards to my own self-respect and my own children. I didn't want to be "the bitch" now I just turned out to be a "doormat". I've been with my DH for seven years and I still get treated the same. I finally got tired of it. And don't allow them in my home. You didn't say how long you'be been with your BF but you have to decide is this relationship worth the stress and headaches.
I got lucky with a decent
I got lucky with a decent kid-BF's daughter isn't all that bad. If she were disrespectful and he couldn't control her, I'd be gone.
When you marry him - it will
When you marry him - it will get much worse. SD14 was a little rude before and then when we moved in it got so bad. Now we are in a custody battle with BM. SD14 wants to live with mom since Dad and I have rules. It just gets worse. If DH had stopped the disrespect early on, I truly believe none of this would have happened.
Thank you all for the advice.
Thank you all for the advice. My BF and I do not live together and I am not planning to until he gets control of his BM and teen drama. We have been together for only a year. What burns me is his teen is disrespectful in MY house that I own. I told BF I do not want his teen in my house or want to see her until she is ready to apologize to me and have manners. Then I will consider letting her back in my life. I told him if he wants to see me it will be without his teen. He understood and agreed. I will wonder how all this will come about when BM finds out I banned her teen. I don't care but I don't want her threatening my BF and causing him more touble. But I guess all I can say is he is a big boy and will have to deal with it and put a stop to all this craziness.
Should I run, The way that
Should I run,
The way that you are handling this is spot on. I wish you were around for advice when I was going through the teen years! What you are asking for is just and reasonable. Good for you!
Thank you all for the advice.
Thank you all for the advice. My BF and I do not live together and I am not planning to until he gets control of his BM and teen drama. We have been together for only a year. What burns me is his teen is disrespectful in MY house that I own. I told BF I do not want his teen in my house or want to see her until she is ready to apologize to me and have manners. Then I will consider letting her back in my life. I told him if he wants to see me it will be without his teen. He understood and agreed. I will wonder how all this will come about when BM finds out I banned her teen. I don't care but I don't want her threatening my BF and causing him more touble. But I guess all I can say is he is a big boy and will have to deal with it and put a stop to all this craziness.