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MIL's warped brain...

shielded2009's picture

So my MIL has been married 3 times...She's currently married long distance (whatever that means), but her 2nd marriage was for like 12 or 13 years. She's been divorced from that man for about 10 years or more...They never had kids together, but each came with 2 kids. Theirs wasn't one big happy family. Her husband (DH's step father) flat out didn't like DH, and didn't want him there...So MIL came home from work one day and told DH (he was like 17 at the time and had just graduated from HS) that she was going out, and when she came home, he'd better be gone...So DH was literally homeless. In ever sense of the word. He lived on the streets for about a week until he scrounged up enough money for a bus ticket to get to his uncle's house in Detroit. Of course his relationship with his mom was damaged (still is), but he persevered...

I'm not sure what her relationship was with her step kids, but I know for a fact that she doesn't talk to them at all...Hasn't since the divorce...

I find it odd because she has a problem with me and the fact that I don't see or consider or treat SD like she is my child. She says that when DH and I got married, I became a mother to SD in the sense that she's as much my child as my BS...I've never agreed with this...

BUT my question is if THAT'S the case, why isn't she in contact with her "other children"? Just because you divorce, you don't lose your "mother" title, if I'm going off of her previous statement do you? If she considered her step kids the same as her birth kids, wouldn't one think that she'd be in their lives, too?

Or is she full of chit?

I think she's full of it and her brain is warped...

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AliceP's picture

She's warped, I think all mothers once they become grandmothers either want to right the things they know they were wrong about when raising kids, or completely forget that they made a lot of mistakes with their own kids. I deal with that with MIL and my mom anyway.

herewegoagain's picture

She sounds like my pathetic mil who remarried and treated her kids from her first marriage like crap...but still financially supports her loser 35yr old from her 2nd marriage...She too expected me to financially provide for my DHs kid and treat her like my own, although she never even did so for her own bios from her first marriage...

PS I no longer talk to the witch nor do I allow my son near her