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CS system is broken, but how can it be fixed?

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Although we all understand why child support is in place it seems to be terribly outdated for the current times. But how can it be fixed? child support is set to make sure both parents contribute to a child's well being it's hardly ever fair and one parent always feels to be on the losing end. Currently one flaw is the term is " child support" if one parent is successful it almost enables the other to be completely reliant on CS.

OT- Adoption, finding birth parents

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I recently came across a video on tik tok ( I know I know don't judge lol) of a man saying he was trying to find his birth mother and having issues as it was a closed adoption. There were a lot of supportive messages saying they would try and help as he was asking the public to help with the information he had. One comment started a convo, someone mentioned that she may not want to be found and doing so would be an intrusion. 
 

Spying In Your Home

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I think we all knew that skids are always giving info back home but the extent I'm hearing from the horses mouth is just crazy. A friend of mine has a son he is 11, this must spend every waking minute at his fathers house listening around corners and just watching! She tells me as soon as he hops in the car he is spilling all the information.

Strangest thing

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So the strangest thing happen and according to Husbad it's not the first time. SS 10 told husband while talking about a dog " oh yeah remember you bought my mom jacks (their dog) because she was sad her cat died" Husband confused " says I didny buy that dog?" SS then says yeah my mom told me, and husband says I think your confused that dog is like 15 convo ends. 

Thoughts on this?

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While chatting with some girl friends, 1 Who has a SD, one who for context is a BM in her situation. My friend with SD 12 was talking about issues she having with SD and on her behavioral issues. Friend who is a BM steps in and says " well he should always have her back no matter what that's his kid". In traditional family settings it's preached over and over " put your spouse first" " always put your marriage first" but for some reason this idea goes out the window when skids are involved. 
 

Completely Mind Blown here

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With the whole corona virus we've had time to spend with family and that seemed great at first might be time to head back! While here we've spent more time with in laws than I ever have since we have always lived out of state. Anyway! With so much death in the news lately the conversation of wills and beneficiaries came up. Well would you believe that my MIL was shocked that I was my husbands sole beneficiary and he mine not 10 year old SS. I was more shocked when she assumed everything would go to SS if we were both gone. What?

Help! Constant Comparison

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Hi everyone I'm hoping you all can share an insight on what we've been dealing. A little history my husband has a son from a past relationship. We live in another state and have since SS was 3 now 10. BM remarried early on and SS has called her new husband dad his entire life. The issue we are constantly dealing with is the comparing our lifestyle to theirs, we do well and because of this BM gets a nice CS check monthly. However it is never enough, she will find out of my husband bought a new motorcycle, if we go on vacation, if i have a new car anything.

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