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Submitted by ScoobyCran on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 7:41am

I dread this time of year every year!! BM works full time, DH is a teacher so has the same seven long weeks holidays as 16yo stepdaughter and 13yo step son. They are coming to stay for the full seven weeks. After fighting tooth and nail I have managed to clear 4 days of the seven weeks for the two of us to go for a long weekend away, but other than that no joy.
16yo SD hates me and as a result I feel uncomfortable and unwelcome in my own home. Husband not willing to 'rock the boat' by pulling her up about her attitude towards me so as a result, I am in tears most nights at the moment.
I asked husband to take a week out with me while my brother visits (a once every 5 years occasion as he lives overseas), but Exwife has now booked to go away with her BF on the same dates and wont let kids stay at husband's parents house to allow us to go away! Heeeelp! I want to move out for the summer, but nowhere to go... Sad

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Submitted by ScoobyCran on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 7:51am

Have just read abbreviations - my husband's exwife is going on holiday with her boyfriend, not her dad! (not that it really makes any difference!)

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 8:54am

"I feel uncomfortable and unwelcome in my own home"

This is a horrible feeling and I feel for you. Nobody should feel uncomfortable in their own home or have to move out of it to accommodate somebody else.

He doesn't want 'to rock the boat'? Tell him, "It's called PARENTING. You are one, so how about you BE one."

Seriously, why are these men so afraid of their own children? You don't have to answer that, I already know all of their excuses.

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Submitted by SMof2Girls on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 9:44am

"Exwife has now booked to go away with her BF on the same dates and wont let kids stay at husband's parents house to allow us to go away"

How is she allowed to dictate this? If she's not available to watch the kids, and the children are in no danger, how can she tell DH who is allowed to watch her kids or not?

It would be different if there were safety or health concerns .. but if not, she shouldn't have that control over your life

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 10:06am

I was wondering the same thing...she has no right to say that the SKids can't stay with GP's.