So here I go...New here..feel like this is the perfect place for me. I have a 8yr old stepson who has been the issue of our relationship for the past few years. His mother lives in the same town and rarely gets him. A few years ago..we decided to take him full time bc he was failing YES failing Kindergarten. After some serious tough love..arguments and heated battles..we are somewhat on 'level ground'. Ive nvr tried to replace his mother even tho he has called me Mom (his choice) for the past two years. He was rude and not interested in school at all. He now shows manners and enjoys school..that is until he goes with her for even just a weekend. Everything we have done to show this child stability she snatches away in a weekend..hence the message. He came home today..dirty..smelly with same pants on from Thursday (we went out of town for buainess) his attitude is horrible and he got a C and D on test given Friday. He told us she seen his grades and didnt say anything..can he go out to play. Of course no but I get so pissed off I want to at least say something..Hubby says we cant control what she does and kinds of blows it off however it normally means i look like the bad guy. Im so over it...this is really nothing compared to some other things shes done (claiming him on her taxes..getting food stamps) But I feel like I want out!!! This is our only issue..either him or his mom. Does it get better?