I am sounding like such a hypocrite right now..........because I am the great supporter/debator of disengaging!!!!!!!!!!!!! But, I'm about to ENGAGE with a vengeance!!

Please forgive me ahead of time, as I'm sure I am about to ramble incessantly!!!!

Okay, I'll admit,BM irritates me. She's gotten progressively obnoxious since our engagement - that is NOT a figment of my imagination.
I openly have extreme frustration for most of what BM does - WHEN and only WHEN if affects me, my home, my life, or my finances. FH is SOOOOOOOOO used to this useless woman that he can't see it sometimes. FH calls me about an hour ago to tell me that BM will take SD9 to her pitching practice tomorrow. She hasn't taken her to a practice since last year and she has NEVER paid for a practice. It's $30.00 per hour. I said is she gonna pay for the pitching practice? He says "uhhhhhhh, no. She can't afford it because of the cell phone she bought for SD9's bday." (BM bought SD9 a cell phone and then called FH and told him that he is to make SD9 do chores to earn money to buy more minutes. This means that WE will be the only ones purchasing the minutes. FH agreed with me on that one and we told BM that she bought the phone - she can purchase ALL minutes. We agreed on a cell phone for the kids at age 13.)
And then he tells me to worry LESS about the money and be happy that BM is finally taking an interest in SD9's pitching. I said SD9 has been pitching for two years and BM has NEVER one time practiced with her out in the yard EVEN after we bought SD9 a new glove to keep at BM's house for that purpose!!!
I'm not sure how to express my ABSOLUTE PISSED-OFFED-NESS regarding this phone call.
When I let FH know my displeasure at his paying for the pitching lesson, he says to me: You are gonna hate everything BM does whether it's right or wrong. I was wracking my brain trying to think of a "right" thing she has done lately.
Now, ladies, my FH (god love him) has told me NUMEROUS times, including today during that same phone call, that BM WILL NEVER change. She will never CHOOSE to pay for something if she doesn't have to. FH has said this many times! Do you ladies see everything WRONG with this statement? I told FH today and many other times that BM has that option! FH has given her that option! Of course BM will NEVER change, why should she? She told FH that she was taking SD9 to her lesson and that he was gonna pay for it and he said "uhhhhhhhhhhhhh........okay." (please envision stupid looking man (you can insert your own man here if you want) with his eyes crossed and his tongue hanging out with possibly a little drool somewhere). How can I get this through FH's head? BM has never been forced to be responsible - EVER! She always has FH to fall back on and he will do it "for the kids", (I just puked). What explains this sudden interest in SD9's pitching? I can tell you right now. We were out of town this past weekend and BM had to take SD9 to her softball game. (wonderful, responsible, mother of the effing year got SD9 to her game JUST before the second inning - She's late everywhere she goes!) So anyway, BM is there and SD9's pitching coach happened to be there to watch how our SD9 pitched in an actual game. I'm sure BM was feeling a little uncomfortable since she has taken absolutely no interest in SD9's pitching for over a year and I'm sure she decided to approach the coach and make an appointment for a lesson just to "look like the good BM." I hate her "temporary" moments of "good mommy ness". And let's congratulate her for her "good mommy moment" because they are so few and far between!

Yes, I hate everything she does even if it's right - because I KNOW how temporary it is! This same woman kept both girls home from school last Monday because she was hungover! And because of that, when SD9 has a 103 fever, BM takes her to work with her this morning and then calls FH to come get her! She can't take off work to be with her sick child, because she probably used that excuse last Monday. I asked FH to please,please,please tell me one "right" thing BM has done. I mean besides the basic needs - food (fast food), clothing (she gets them all from OUR family), shelter (her daddy makes her house payment), get the drift? Oh, but BM can go buy a CELL PHONE for a nine year old, but then can't pay for it.

UGH - I just made a Dr.'s appointment for tomorrow because I think my blood pressure is sky high and I think I may need something to help me sleep. I have never considered taking meds before, but I'm afraid my poor old body is about to fall apart.

I don't care if nobody reads this. It was completely cathartic for me to write this and now I have to go back to work, because I have a FH, 1 BD, 2 skids, and a useless bag-of-shit BM to support.

Thanks for your time. Have a great day.