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Submitted by roselindaramirez on Fri, 10/19/2012 - 2:07pm

well i guess i could start from the beginning , the ex in this story had a raid where the children where in because of her boyfriend being apart of a murder crime and the children where never removed from her cusody 30 days later the oldest child of three he was 5 passed away in a car wreck because she decided to go joy riding with a unlicensed 15 yr old drive and didnt buckel down 2 of three children the youngest was 11 months old which he was in a car seat. well the child was shot out the wind shield and the truck rolled on the child crushed his skull well i meet my boyfriend 4 months after the lost of his son ... the mother continued to cause problems with the children jerking them around place to place using them for everyone to feel sorry for her and finally leaving them with me alot , my children started school for the first time aug 2008... the wreck was oct 2007 well being with my boyfriend i told him his son could start school with mine so we asked her if she would put them in school got upset because she had the ideal first in her mind and acted as if we wheere telling her was to do ... being tired of the stress of me and my boyfriend because of his depression we hire a lawyer to get cusody... ever since then we been in hell with this woman calling Cps, police on me harrassing phone calls ... her sister and family memeber taunting me it got so bad i wouldnt leave the home and closed my curtains im sure i was depressed and stressed my husband and i picked up a drinking problem which caused us to fight so much because of her making up things trying to fill his head up and my head up with lies .... we went to court for 2 yrs we got granted papers on the children but her lawyer was suppose to type the papers up they never got typed up ... which the jugde never stamped from all the stress of fighting we moved out of the town because i became pregnant we gave his house up to the bank because my husband clames he hears and see his late son in the home and move to start fresh with all his and mine kids with where 4 boys .... well my husband got introuble got a dui and went to rehab i was left with the children i got a job a supported all of use by that time i had my 5 kid at the house Cps got involoved at my home because my step son stated his uncle was molesting him so i called the police on him .... press charges and put him in jail. the mother was contacted and took advantage and took the children from me while my bf was gone... and put motion to chang ethe order of cusdosy stating i was abusing them and she drove to another city that she didnt to get them and we never let her see the children the whole time .. everytime we offered the children to her she kept saying she couldnt because she was getting her life together or she had other things to do ... no my bf home and found out there is no order where he has the kids and we dont know where they are... im stressed because this has been goning on for so long almost 5 years of bullshit lies and i dont understand how she never got charges pressed on her for not buckling her child and he passed away in her fault..... anyways there tons more to this i just typed up some things im tired and feel like giving up ....and just letting her have them and us move on ..i dont understand how blind the state and ppl are to let someone like this keep her kids when ive been having them and rasing them for years but yet im not nothing to them i guess but a babysitter

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Fri, 10/19/2012 - 2:34pm

I don't mean to sound like a callous jerk here, but one could argue that your household isn't much better than BMs.. I mean you said your DH is a drunk, got a DUI, went to rehab, kid claims uncle molested him etc.

It sounds like these kids would really be better off in foster care or in the custody of someone who has 1/2 their shit together.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Fri, 10/19/2012 - 3:58pm

Man, those poor kids got stuck with two sorry ass parents.

Dad's a drunk and SM has a drinking problem. BM iso just useless.

Foster care is the best place for of the kids.

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Submitted by lawyergirl06 on Fri, 10/19/2012 - 4:34pm

A few other observations. Even if the paperwork wasn't done, and I find that a stretch, the Court also has a record of what they have ordered, it's called a Journal Entry. Every court has to keep a record for appeals purposes so there is very little likelihood that she could just take the kids without any repurcussions because again, there is a record of it.

Second, and more importantly, no chance that those kids would be given to mom if she is living with someone who was accused of murder. If the house was raided as you said, the law would require CPS to put a hold on the child due to the dangerous situation the kids would have been in. No chance, if what you say is true about the joyriding situation was true, that they would have given those kids back to mom after both a raid and a death by extreme negligence, whether mom was charged or not. The law, under the ASFA requires at least a 72 hour hold on kids in a dangerous situation.

Third, mom could not have shown up and just taken the kids. Judge wouldn't have given those kids back, even if your husband was in jail, unless there was a showing that she was a stable parent. Obviously that isn't the case. Greatest likelihood, kids would have remained with you, or AGAIN foster care would have come into play.

Finally, why wouldn't this accident have made national news. I mean, after all, just google 15 year old joyride and you will get more than 15,000 hits of kids who have been in accidents where they were driving, and most of those didn't involve fatalities. Something like this would have certainly made national news.

Having said that. If your story is true, and I am praying that it is not, then the first thing you need to do is get a copy of the journal order from the court. Then you need to fax that to every law enforcement agency in your state and the surrounding states showing that she is interfering with your husband's custodial rights. Third, you also need to get into rehab or at least out patient services, and finally, you both need to stop having kids until you can get your addiction issues under control.

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Submitted by roselindaramirez on Sat, 10/20/2012 - 10:43am

well cps didnt take the children from the raid they could of got sued but since his son passed he had a hard time handling it he is sober and finally let the pass of his late son go and i have been sober for a while since march of 2011 because i got pregnant with my 3 child .... nmy bf have been sober since jan 2012 ... we have hired a lawyer ppl are pretty hate full on how a person handles a lost of a son ... i understand his pain but never in my life hope to hurt as bad as him his mother killed herself becuase of the lost as well... papers never got finished because whilen we waited forever her lawyer was suppose to write up the paper work it never got done she never paid the lawyer ... i have copies of the police reports of the raid and the wreck the 15 yr old kid stated to the police "i guessn today was the day i wreck" from drifting and i understand how this didnt make the new i dont understand why either or why no charges got pressed on anyone , my bf had a chance to sue the police dept because the fact they let the childre3n get released in hern care after the raid all this is a cause and a effect ... the children got moslest by the mothers family in which i reported that but ive takin care of these kids for almost 5 yrs while the mother and father have been out of their mind ...i have made arrangements to put these kids in consuling and had them both in school consuling ... since she snaged them they havent had that in which they both need .... i wish my bf would of got help sooner than later to relize what was going on ... and maybe your right maybe they should be put up but i just had another child and the kids lost a brother already now to not beable to be apart of their new brother life is awful .... all my kids got to church 2 twice a week always had their own space and stable for 5 yr including my step children and all my kid make straight as in school and play sports we have a normal life the community know us very well...i just wanted to say my story because i need to vent .....

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Submitted by roselindaramirez on Sat, 10/20/2012 - 10:57am

also everyone treated this bm like gold and while someone tried so hard to show then truth get shot down let and write just like the judgements and comment that have been left all the negative thoughts instead of hey dont give up for them kids try so hard to get them a chance in life they hurt just as bad as we do they just dont think to supress their feeling with booze because they are children ... adults dont know they are surpressing their feeling with booze in their mind befoer its too late emotion take charge we both understand that we let our feelings get the best of us because we3 been trying so hard to show what the woman is doing but she keeps getting away with it ... but thanks i apprecciate the support from everyone who commented ... i hope no one has to go through what we have been going through and in hope handle better than us ....all we want is her to pay for her mistakes and its not happwning i hope if you lose a child because of neglect judice hears you becuause they didnt hear us... good bye