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Submitted by Roselin on Sat, 08/30/2008 - 1:10pm

It's been a long time since I've posted. I lurk occasionally to see what is up with everyone. My SD ran away last March or April after DH and I reunited and her drug/alcohol abuse was uncovered. The counselor said she tested one step below drug addiction... Her BM ended up moving to our town (her job let her work remotely) to get SD through school. DH was sure she was going to come back and we have maintained her room and car insurance all these months... even though she couldn't drive after he found out she was drinking and driving.

SD17 Ran Away Today

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Submitted by Roselin on Mon, 04/14/2008 - 10:51pm

Ugh. The drama never ends around here. After six months of separation and counseling, DH and I finally decided to move back in together. (I highly recommend Imago Therapy - it really helped us communicate and quit treating one another as the enemy). In what appears to be retaliation, my SD (who I raised for 8 years before our separation) ran away. She vowed to never speak to me again and said she would rather starve than come upstairs to my kitchen and get food. He told her she could go to the food bank.

Question about liability

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Submitted by Roselin on Fri, 03/21/2008 - 6:13pm

Hi All - it's been a long time since I've been here. I hope you've all been doing well. I moved out - moved back in. Couples counseling is going exceptionally well and I feel like we are FINALLY on the right track. It is amazing to me how little we really have understood one another through the years. I guess communication means you both have to understand what is being said : ) I recommend this Imago therapy for any couple - it is amazing.

Decided to Move Out

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Submitted by Roselin on Fri, 01/04/2008 - 2:43pm

This stuff is so hard. After a heart-breaking holiday where DH decided to spend Christmas with his GROWN kids (who ditched me when we started having trouble) rather than me (SD was with her mom), I have taken the hint and am leaving. It's pretty obvious now that he will never put our relationship first - even when SD graduates since the grown kids are here. And he acts surprised - he thought everything was going fine. As long as we only talk about the weather, it is fine! I am so angry, which is a sure sign to me that I am hurt to the core.

Not Sure What To Do

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Submitted by Roselin on Wed, 11/28/2007 - 10:14pm

After 8 years of being her full-time parent, my SD has decided that everything bad in her life is because of me. My DH and I went on a well-deserved trip for a couple of days. SD had done well on her own before, but decided to break every rule while we were gone. We couldn't reach her at home, she had a party, etc. She called her BM when it appeared we were questioning her actions and complained bitterly that I was trying to make a story out of nothing - accusing her unjustly.