So this was the weekend FDH had to work Saturday night. I thought it was supposed to be last weekend but I was wrong. I got a babysitter for my kids and went out so SD didn't come. }:)

FDH is a bartender so I hung out at his work with him and had a great time. This bar is in my hometown and is was our Settler's Day weekend. I must also throw in its a very small town and almost everyone knows each other.

Several mutual friends of mine and my ex approached me and asked me what I thought about my ex's new girlfriend. I didn't even know he had a girlfriend, let alone who she is. I guess this chic is a crack head and just got out of prison. She also have four kids by four different dads...the youngest just born a couple of months ago. From what they were telling me, she has a habit of getting in trouble with the law and dragging down her friends and boyfriends with her. She has taken plea deals and ratted out others multiple times to get her sentence reduced. Her rap sheet is "four pages long" is what I was told and some how this chic sits in the bar during the middle of the day, all day long.

My ex only sees our kids once about every three months as it is, but I don't want my kids around this woman. F*ck, I don't even want her to know where I live. Sounds like nothing but trouble. There hasn't been any visitation set up. So what do I do? If I tell him I don't want her around the kids, everyone knows damn well the first thing he'll do is go straight to her just to spite me. I also don't want to completely cut him off...that would break BS13's heart and he wouldn't understand without knowing the full truth. Do I try to talk to ex about this? Do I try to explain to BS13 what the deal is?

My ex MIL and I have a fairly good relationship...she let him live with her after I kicked him out and got a good dose of him and ended up apologizing to me because of him. She doesn't know how I dealt with him for 13 years. I've thought about talking to her about this and asking if maybe he could visit with the kids over there. I'm not sure how serious she would talk it. She still might think I'm causing drama with my ex and I don't want that. I hate drama but this really is not a good situation. She might end up giving me the ya, ya, ya's and let him do whatever anyways.

I know BS13 would say something to his dad if he ever saw anything not kosher. I know he would tell me too. BS 13 doesn't need the bad influence, but I'm more worried about BD2. She can't protect herself or communicate well enough if there was anything I needed to know about it.

So what do I do her ST peeps?

Do I tell ex to sit and spin and take me to court for visitation? This is what I'm leaning towards; I could ask for supervised visitation. Or do I trust that their father will keep them out of harms way? My ex has alcoholic tendencies as it is so I question his influence anyway. What I'm really hoping for is that "relationship" of theirs will end quickly and I won't have to deal with this at all. I'm pretty sure if I try to talk to my ex about this, he will say I'm being jealous(f*ck no) and trying to be controlling and it would backfire.