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Submitted by RhondaJSharp on Sat, 01/09/2010 - 3:26pm

I know that your not suppose to hate people especially kids. But I hate my 16 year old step son. How can you discipline a child when they dont listen?? Somebody.... I really do need a answer. This boy steals, and I am not talking about petty stuff. I am talking about cars, peoples medicine, and other peoples stuff. He will lie even when he does not have to. He will lie to try to get you put in jail if he thinks it will benefit him. He is violent to his mother and father when they get in his business or they try to correct him. He throws stuff, breaks things, like a two year old throwing a temper tantrum. When you tell him to do some thing, he will absolutely not do it. Tell him to go to his room, oh no, he will pace back and forth in the living room in your face. Tell him he cant go any where, he will sneak out the back door. He has called me names in front of my child who is learning talk. He has caused physical fights with his dad, breaking ribs, blacking eyes. I want him gone. But where? Nobody wants to put up him. Where?? Some body, any body??????????
His dad is his sucker and doesnt want to lock him up, and we cant afford to send him some where where we have to pay monthly notes.

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Submitted by anita...sigh on Sat, 01/09/2010 - 3:44pm

There is no alternative but to get the police involved. Although it seems harsh, the structured environment of juvie/jail works wonders for some of the kids. It really sounds like he has a conduct disorder which can develope into a personality disorder when he matures.

I'm curious, is dad waiting for him to kill someone??

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Submitted by stepmom of two on Sat, 01/09/2010 - 4:02pm

My Sd age 7 and 8 have tryed to put. Me in jail saying I beat them . And I told my hb that I've never been to jail and I won't start now for something I would never do. And then my hb wants me to go around just loven the kids like it didn't happen I think not . And as for your SS he needs to go .

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Submitted by Gmama on Sat, 01/09/2010 - 4:48pm

Let me know to,, it sounds like MY boys,, It's not all Step children that are horrible,, I read so many blogs and people bitching about step kids, but it sure seems like people have perfect Bio kids,
I'm hear to tell you my kids are brats, they do the same things, luckly I have one that will be 20 in 2 months, We struggled like hell, I called the police on him twice and there was nothing they could do besides take him to a "buddies" house for the night to calm down, BIG deal! he's 20 now, lives on his own, has a son, and just bought a house with his friend, he's a great dad and loves his son to death, he actually seems like he's getting it,and becoming a responsible,yound father that HAS to take care of someone other then himself. The courts and the law can't always fix things, in fact at one time I called a lawyer to check on imancipation, he said it would take longer to do that then wait it out until he was 18, we just basically waited it out, sad part is he moved out when he was 17,, I feel sad because we spent so much time fighting that I missed out on the good things that other families do together when there kids are that age.. My now 16 and a half year old is starting the same crap, except he's not as Cocky as his brother was, and he's a little dumber when it comes to the law.,, he's on probation right now and just plain gets caught every time he does something stupid,, hang in there,, I hope it gets better, I wish I had some solid advice or places you could go for help... maybe the school counslor could send in you the right direction?

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Submitted by Richberg on Sun, 01/10/2010 - 8:38am

Im sorry to hear about your Delema , I've read both of your blogs about whats going on , and theres a couple concerns I have , First - whats the relationship between the Dad & son before all of his antics ? Do you guys have sole custody of him ? Because if he lives full time there at your place and its been for awhile - like yrs , then it may have a lot to do with the inter action between Dad & son that's breaking down and the kid is reacting out of anger towards it ..
second - if he's been doing these behaviors and gradually getting worse with them , I would be concern of drug use , and have that look into , one steels for reasons sometimes to get drugs and that can also explain the physical abuse displayed towards DH ..
Once someone gets physical it changes the whole dynamics of a relationship , Its Now an UNSAFE environment for you , DH , and the other kids in the home .. Anytime you try to do the " see if he likes this game " , like changing his room around giving him a smaller room , it may not do anything for you but raise another fire under his ass to give him More things to fight about ..

He needs More than an in house disciplinarian , You & DH need to be on the same page about who to contact or follow up actions for Hi BS , or you could except his crap and sleep with one eye open or take shifts guarding each other from the 16 yr old house bully ..