Where do I begin? So I have been a step parent for almost ten years. The first four years were the greatest years! She was only one years old when she came into my life. She was my everything and I hers. I get the privilege of saying I taught her everything she knows. Her mother got her every other week. It was hard for her to leave me. She would scream kick and cry when I had to hand her over. A lot of times people were confused at who she really belonged to. Then one day the unthinkable happened. Her mother abandoned her for over four and half years. These years were hard for us.