I have decided to just back off from helping or getting.involved with my sd10. I get to emotionally involved in trying to raise her "the right way" for example making her do her choirs, brushing her teeth, showering, being kind to others, going to church, etc. I am tired of trying to make her the best she could be especially when I don't get the support from dh or bm. So a couple weeks ago I told myself I was done and told dh.he had to be responsible for her. I don't tell her to do anything anymore, I don't take her to church...I told dh if he wants her to go he has to bring her.