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FDH wants to give SS to BM

realitycheckmom's picture

I'm afraid FDH has lost his mind. BM decided to listen to the inlaws and SS has told a few mistruths which coupled with her hatred of me has made her sue for full custody. He came home tonight saying he was thinking of giving full custody to BM with the conditions of where he goes to school, where she lives, and no child support.

I'm trying to explain to FDH that a judge won't care that they agreed to no child support and will still assign it and he said BM's lawyer said if they agreed to it a judge will sign off on it. No FDH her lawyer is the sleaziest one in her county, you said so, so lawyer is going to say anything to get you to give his client what she wants.

FDH thinks after SS is with BM a while he will want to come home. If BM doesn't care that he wants to come home and won't let him now then why would she admit failure and return him down the road?

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realitycheckmom's picture

Thanks Tex, I knew someone here had this happen where BM was ordered to pay. I kept telling him but he wouldn't listen.

Jsmom's picture

The judge here will go along what is figured out in mediation. For us, BM wanted CS, she wasn't entitled to it (made too much money) and she agreed to stop fighting it if we gave up custody of the brat. So now we have one and she has one and no CS. If you agree in mediation, they usually uphold it.

I am with your DH, let the kid go. Nothing worse than a cranky kid that doesn't want to be with you.

3familiesIn1's picture

BM was ordered to pay DH $120 a month here in AZ. He declined it. No CS exchanges hands for us.

My XH was not automatically ordered to pay CS - we have never drawn up a CS agreement, if we did, the worksheet shows he should be paying around $220 to me for the girls. Our divorce was completed with no CS order.