I have mentioned in previous blogs that BM's  Bkid, age 20 something, was being a typical BM with custody and teaching her BS to hate his BD.  DH keeps in contact with BM's Bkid, or should I say she keeps in touch with DH when she has problems with BM.  

Yesterday, DH gets a message from BM's Bkid, we can call her Sue.  When Sue's son was born, she was 18 years old and not married.  She left her live in boyfriend and moved back home with BM shortly after her BS was born.  BM convinced Sue to go to court  and give her (BM)  joint custody with the son instead of the BF. The BF would just get visitation whenever everyone decided it would be a good time.  Great way for parential alienation to start.  Judge agreed.  BF was blackmailed by BM to go along with the arrangement.  

Fast forward,  5 years.  BM and Sue are no longer talking to each other and Sue decided to take BM to court to have her removed as having joint custody and to have the BD added as joint custody.  BM is on the BF's side because she sees how important Father's are to a kid. Trust me, I don't know if I can roll my eyes that far back in my head after hearing that is what BM said.  BM spent so much of her time making sure DH didn't have any visitation rights unless she needed a babysitter for ALL of her kids not just dh's child. 

Court date was about a week or so ago.  The judge has now ruled that the BF has joint custody and set times for visitation with  BF arranging transportation to pick up the child from Sue and for Sue to arrange transporation to pick up child after visitation from BF.   The BF is in the Military and is stationed in another state. It is about a 4 or 5 hour drive.  The BF has told Sue that she can not go on base.  He lives on base with his wife.  Sue has had a full blown tantrum  because she thinks that she should be allowed to visit BF's home (another eye roll here).  The best part is that BM gets one day a week for visitation that is court ordered.  Sue decided that she was not going to provide BM an explanation as to why she could not see child on the visitation date.  BM showed up to pick up the child and the child wasn't there.  Sue being a typical BM told her that they were out of town and they would see her next visit. BM offered to set another date but Sue wasn't having it.   BM has now filed a show cause because Sue skipped the visitation.  Sue is throwing another tantrum.  DH has warned Sue to not tick off BM or she would more than likely have social services at her house.  BM doesn't have a problem taking off work to go to court.  Sue can't take off that much time or she will be fired.  Sue is going to get even and MAKE BM Pay. We shall see who wins this battle.  I think Sue is not experienced enough to handle crazy BM.  BM doesn't play nice and has connections in social services.  

I think it is very crazy that BM has created a mini me who thinks she is the only person who has rights to her child.   Right now since BM is focused on Sue she is leaving DH alone.  It is so sad that the child has to deal with all the crazy things.  I keep telling DH to tell Sue to think of what is best for the child but of cours,e Sue can only see what she wants to see and actually thinks she is doing what is best for the child.