Spring Break
So, I've waited all year for this!!! The BKids are on Spring Break and I've taken a vacation from work so that we can all spend some quality time together. My fiance and I even made plans for some much-needed "grown-up" time. Plans for the beach and amusement parks and aquariums promise to help me re-gain some sanity and power up for the coming Summer break with the SKIDS when guess what????!!!! The EX calls and guess who else is out of school this week? Yes, none other than the dear old SKIDS. Even though they've already had their Spring Break in their town, they have three days of no school during my kids break as well. UUUUUGGGGGHHHHHH!!!! Its great that he gets to spend time with them, but every other weekend, holidays, birthdays, and all summer is quite enough for me. I was looking forward to some quality time without them.
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You dont always have to be available for her whines and demands.
Yeah well.....
Why not just say no...This is the thing about kids, whether they are bio or step. They have a primary family and get to do things with that primary family without your kids that live at your place right? So, why is it that the kids that live with us have to share everything they do at their primary house with the kids that don't live there!! It never works the opposite way, so the non live in kids always get more than the live in kids. Does this make sense??
I have this arguement with DH all the time. My kids don't have a secondary home. They have this one and thats it. DH gets angry at me if I want to go on a 2 day holiday without SS. Mind you SS doesn't go without!! He goes on 90% of our holidays with us. For e.g. BM just took SS away to another state for 5 days..did my kids go? Did my kids care? NO...so why is it that my kids and my entire life has to revolve around whether SS can come, whether he is allowed to come, whether it is our weekend?? Drives me insane!! Just say no, sorry, this time you have plans.
What skids get:
Weekly payments (CS for a better style of living, supposedly)
Holidays x 2 family's
Xmas x 2
Birthdays x 2
Bedrooms x 2
Toys x 2
Clothes x 2
Parents x 3 or 4
Less rules
Less chores
More people to run around for them.
Our bio kids or kids with one family obviously get half of this.
Most of the time the first family lives a higher standard than the 2nd due to what the 2nd has to pay to the first. I know SM's here on ST who live on less than they pay the BM and skids per month...
I don't want my SS to suffer by any means, but I don't see why my kids should get less than he does, or why my kids can't have anything like even a small holiday without SS once a year!
Catch xx
*Mean People Suck*
Say NO!
I stuck to my guns and said no during the last school holidays. You and your children are important too. And you are not a child minding service!
You have plans.
Guess BM will just have to find a babysitter.
♥ Georgia, the un-stepmom ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
Have you told him no?
Have you told him no?
Powers of persuasion
I'm not very good at this, but I'm trying.
Have you tried helping him to see that you don't have to take them just because they are available? My husband is slowly coming around to some of this. If he's not going to be available to take care of SD, then she is not with us. In other words, she is not my job.
Husband wants to take a vacation to Disney World for BD4. I do NOT want to take SD15 because she has gone before and she wouldn't want to ride the things BD4 would and she would try to drag my husband off or complain the entire time. No thank you! I finally asked him how many people he plans to have on this trip and he said four (me and him and BDs 4 and 1). So maybe he gets it after all?