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Submitted by rainbow bright83 on Fri, 05/09/2014 - 4:29pm

So I've been reading a lot of blog posts/ forum topics and whatnot and have been alerted to the fact that Skids, even while having very little contact with Bio kids, can sill have an impact on them. I am hoping that I can raise my children to understand that most of the behaviors the Skids exhibit and not acceptable, even though they are acceptable by my DH. I know that in the end, the way the Skids are/act is directly related to the way they were poorly raised by both DH and BM. They each parented with an agenda.

bummer!!! (not about the Skids)

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Submitted by rainbow bright83 on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 5:51pm

I have been gearing up for a month now for my DD6's dance performance and I just was notified it has been cancelled due to crappy weather. Sad I love watching my baby doll dance!(she is my youngest and only bio girl) She does have another performance later in the month so its not a complete let down, but the one that was cancelled was local so family would have been able to attend.

In the begining

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Submitted by rainbow bright83 on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 1:36pm

I've noticed that I really haven't shared the back story of my marriage into the step life. I will try and tell it the best I can, and it might sound weird and jump around a lot and im sorry for that in advance.

A phone call and the paranoia

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Submitted by rainbow bright83 on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 10:16am

My husband received a phone call last night which I believe was from SD18. My DH kept his voice very low and wouldn't look over at me. She wanted something because I heard "well, I thought you were working tonight." and "No, I'm not worried about that"
(For those who like to judge you're going to have a field day with this next bit)
So while he was in the shower I went through his phone, and every single text from SD18 had been deleted. (My DH never deletes text messages)

a bit of good news

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Submitted by rainbow bright83 on Wed, 05/07/2014 - 8:01pm

I was told that the SD18 was told she could not move in (with my in laws) by my MIL. I was shocked really. My MIL is thequeen of enabling. In fact I think she taught all of her children that it is the best way to parent. (My MIL is notorious for allowing her grown children to dump their kids on her. Allow them to live with her while using drugs, the list goes on)
so while I am relieved that No was the answer, I'm waiting to hear if she asks DH. I'm not looking forward to this as my answer will be Hell No, Over My Dead Body!

letting it out

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Submitted by rainbow bright83 on Wed, 05/07/2014 - 2:50pm

I've noticed that when I talk to my bff or my mother I get the awkward oh, hmmm, or the well..... when I try and vent to them about my feelings in regards to my life with DH and Skids. I disengage, tell people I don't want to hear about the Skids.(mostly the SD18) but SD18 ends up weaseling her way into DH life and I hear about her one way or another. Its so hard for me to really talk to them, they only have the "stories" I tell them. They have not experienced the HELL that comes with marrying a guy who has baggage and wont deal with toxic behavior from by Skids.

The saga continues

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Submitted by rainbow bright83 on Wed, 05/07/2014 - 12:12am

I have been informed that SD18 is being kicked out of her appartment and is now trying to move in with the my inlaws. She has not had her child, in fact she dropped it off at her grandmas and hasnt had her in days.
I am waiting to hear of she will indeed be moving in since I refuse to be around her due to the drama that she creates.
I am also praying that DH does not offer her a place to stay here. As I have said before she is not allowed.
Also, I informed my DH that I would be going to my mother house for mothers day and not his parents.
ugh

If only I would have known

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Submitted by rainbow bright83 on Mon, 05/05/2014 - 3:16pm

If I could go back in time and warn myself of how much of a nightmare having step kids is..... I can almost picture the PERFECT family. Don't get me wrong, I hear amazing stories of blended families and I am even envious of it. My husband is the step parent to my older son. I am the step "parent" of my husbands two terrible little demons. The oldest one (who is 18) is by far the worst. Even when she was younger she was a lying, thieving, manipulative brat.

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