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Submitted by Rachel81 on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 8:39am

Why does my SD11 insist on telling us things about her BM and Step dad. I don't care what they do or what their likes and dislikes are. Why does she insist on talking to me or telling me about them. I don't want her going to her BM and telling her all about me. One thing that my SD told me about her mother was just shocking. Someone had called my SD11 a BITCH on her school bus. I don't like that fact that someone called my SD a bitch, but I wouldn't have advised her to tell the other childl what my SD BM told her. BM mom said what you should have said is "If you think I am a bitch then you should meet my mother. I am just the bitch in training she is the real bitch"
Honestly who says this to their child??? especially an 11yr old.

I am glad to hear that she is happy at her mother's but I don't need to hear about everything. I know I should get use to it, but it still bother's me.

On the weekend we were visiting with family and my nephew3 was sick and he loves his angry bird toys. Well SD11 wouldn't even compromise and give him his Angry bird toy and play with something else. She just let him cry. I couldn't believe it did anyone teacher her to share. I know that I did once before and it seems like since she got hormones she forgot everything she was taught.

Thanks for letting me vent. I just don't get it sometimes.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 8:51am

Her BM is nasty!

And get used to skid always talking about BM. lol. My SS is almost 20 and he STILL does this on a regular basis.

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Submitted by Rachel81 on Tue, 10/09/2012 - 9:15am

It never use to bother me till she missed treated her dad and myself. Read past blogs. Her Bm has quite the attitude and since SD got hormones she has acted just like her. DH and I have treated her so good over the last 11 yrs, she doesn't need to treat us like her mother does. It is just horrible to see what influence we have on our children. I know they are both teaching me how to be a better mother for my future children.

I even wanted to smack her the other day when we were talking about how we got rid of her play swing that was older than SD is and how we will get a new one once we have another child, well SD said to me that that will never happen and I asked her what made her say that and she said that daddy doesn't want anymore, which he jokes with me all the time about, but he does want another child.obviously she is already jealous, just like her mother.

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Submitted by Annanymous on Wed, 10/10/2012 - 1:04am

I am learning to be very careful because anything SD12 sees or hears or snoops out, she tells all her friends. They all know the business of the others' parents all their marital troubles are discussed between the girls. I know because mine comes and tells me, even when I tell her it is not any of our business. If friend is being beaten, tell me, if her parents are arguing discussing divorce, not anyone's business to be discussing. (I get it, if the one girl talks to her BFF about how it makes her feel, but no need for BFF to then talk to three other girls about it eh?)

Yeah, I think it is a tween girl thing, they LOVE DRAMA,spreading drama, creating drama, stirring up drama, you name it, they eat it up with a spoon.

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Submitted by Rachel81 on Wed, 10/10/2012 - 8:48am

I totally agree and I remember when I was like that too! It just sucks! I tell my DH that he needs to watch what he says in front of her because she doesn't need to know every thing. Especially when her bff is her mother who takes everything you say and converts it into something totally mean and offensive. My husband and I had an agrument one day and she went home and basically told her mom that DH beats me. Whatever!!!

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Submitted by Ghost Rider on Wed, 10/10/2012 - 8:23am

Gotta be a tween thing. The last time the S-kids were here. The one that use to be daddys girl who never talked about her mama had set with me most of the time while she was here could not shut up about her mama.

Her and her mama does this and that together.
Mama is always texting her while she is in class in school ( OMG! really! your mom has to act like one of your best friends and text you in school during class?! )

The last thing I will be doing is texting my child while she is in school during class!!

mama this and that. I was so glad to see them go home. It seems like the table is turning though. What use to be daddy's little girl is mama little girl now and the other one is in limb - bo land. but limb-bo land is daddy's fault it surely isn't from the BM's fowl mouth degrading their dad all the time when she can't get the dad to react to her terms of things.

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Submitted by Rachel81 on Wed, 10/10/2012 - 8:54am

OMG I am in the same situation SD use to be daddy's girl and complained about mommy and I would take her and do the things her mother wouldn't do and I wouldn't get any thanks for it.

SD came over the other day with her new project for school all about her and she was showing me what she was going to put in her scrapbook about the family and she shows me a page about fishing and tells me that Fishing with her mom was the best memory she has. I was so insulted because I have taken her everywhere she wanted to go and the memory about fishing with her mom is her favorite. Keep that to yourself and spare my feelings. The only way I seem to justify my feelings is that her BM never did anything with her for the last 11 years and her first memory of doing something with her mom is fishing. I know I am not BM but I am still her step mom since she was 5 years old. I deserve to here how good I am to her.