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Queencow's picture

Submitted by Queencow on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 10:01am

Classic. I always love it when BM throws this one out to us - its like a cat backed into a corner who can't get out and knows it.

No one can MAKE someone LOOK like a bad parent. Either you are a bad parent/look like one or not. Its not something anyone else has any freaking control over. Sure, another person can TRY to set you up or twist facts - BUT if in the "normal" course of co-parenting YOU claim you are being made to be a "bad parent" - let me tell you it has nothing to do with the OP - chances are you are in fact a bad parent! No one has baited BM, at all - in the course of "normal" coparenting she has launched THIS accusation again - lol.

Guilty conscience...?

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GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 10:05am

She knows she sucks as a mother. Otherwise she wouldn't need to keep pointing out how others are "making" her that way.

The BM here is the same way. It must suck to have to go through life being herself.

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Submitted by lil_lady on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 10:54am

To be honest I kind of disagree with you. We are dealing with a PASing BM so SO has been made out to be a bad parent to SD multiple times. Not saying that is what is going on but I think its very possible to make another parent look bad... Although most of our BM`s truly are or we would be here ;).

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 11:50am

" I think its very possible to make another parent look bad"

I agree, especially with younger kids, it is so easy to twist words or situations and take advantage of the fact that they love you and trust you. Unfortunately there are a lot of parents that are either insecure in their own parenting/relationship with the child or being outright vindictive that they put making the other parent look bad over the overall wellbeing of the child.

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Submitted by SMof2Girls on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 12:33pm

I think this really depends on the circumstances. I don't necessarily agree with it 100% of the time.

When BM moved out of state, she told anyone who would listen about what a deadbeat DH was. Told the skids' teachers and coaches that he was an absent, uninvolved parent. Well .. sure, he was to a point .. because BM moved away and took the skids despite everything DH did to try and fight it.

When he showed up at their soccer/cheerleading events, the coaches were stunned. It was very evident at that moment that he wasn't at all what BM had made it out to be. Even some of the other parents approached DH and said how awesome it was he flew all the way there to see their games ..

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Submitted by Queencow on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 3:20pm

The context of this is well...DH was asked to compile a list of times BM has failed to respond by a third party. So he did. Just a simple point form list. This was also in the middle fo a rant about the "last 4 years" - meanwhile claiming how she "wants to move forward".

DH actually did nothing to provoke this, and in fact SHE is responsible for making herself look bad. Her behaviors and actions have been horrid lately - we dont even "point fingers" or try to address it - laregly we ignore, which is why this is so funny.

This isn't the first time shes claimed this. Last time it was during a custody battle - that his only motive in being part of the kids lives and all his actions were to make her look bad...yet she was denying access, refusing to communicate (like at all, zero communication) etc etc.