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Submitted by puttingupwithdr... on Thu, 10/27/2011 - 10:36pm

OMG am I losing my mind or is this shit going to happen everytime things go good. My fiances ex wifes sisters kid gave him 3 small graduation pics, I thought there was only two, but guess not. Anyway they were on our mantle in the bedroom and I got windex on one and threw it out coz it got white spots on it, so what, no sweat off my ass. Well, the other one or two whatever it was is missing and I did not take the other. But you would think to god I put a curse on the friggin thing. Anyway my fiance took my 5 yr old grand daughters pic off the mantle and wont tell me where it is. What the hell, so I just went around the house and took my pics down of my children and grandchildren coz he said my kids pics were up and his werent. Well dont know where that came from coz he has more than I do up I only had a few. Guess I dont get to put my family on the wall where I work and pay bills and pick up after his almost 18 yr old and his 21 yr old that lives here full time. I am sitting here in the dark while he sleeps, and I am seething mad ready to come unglued. OMG please give me some advice, I am so sick and tired of being the only one that ever trys. When things go good and someone in his family isnt causing trouble then he has to create it.

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Submitted by dreamingofhappiness on Thu, 10/27/2011 - 10:49pm

Breathe... Just Breathe... It is all a territorial thing. Him feeling left out. Feeling that his kids aren't good enough...

Relax. You have just as much rights to the walls as he does. If he wants to take them down, do not let it bother you, find another one to replace the hole...

It is not that hard to make copies of his pictures to replace what he removes....

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Submitted by puttingupwithdr... on Thu, 10/27/2011 - 10:54pm

I know I can replace the pic, it is just the principle of it and the fact that his exwifes sisters kid has to come first. I thought he loved my grand daughter. I guess not. So he thinks it is ok to take her first school pic ever from kindergarden. I am starting to hate him. I would not ask for another one, that was a big one my son and daughter in law bought for me and school packs are expensive and I dont want to tell them what he did so i cannot replace it really I guess. Now he lays there sleeping and I have to go to work at four in the morning and I would like to hit him over the head with a frying pan right now.

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Submitted by briarmommy on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 6:51am

See your nicer then me, I wouldn't take them all down I would put more up. Then house would be so full of pictures you couldn't find a place to hide them all. But then your probably nicer then me. (Plus grandkids take precidence over ex nieces and nephews, just a fact of life) I wouldn't even have his exs nieces and nephews pictures in my home, he wants to keep them he should have an album or put them out at work. Home if for your family, your current family.....that includes children and stepchildren, current nieces and nephews, etc.., but not your exs extended family.

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Submitted by stepfamilyfriend on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 11:48am

I really love this post. It is so true about being vulnerable and it should be ok to share it like that and more likely to get the response you would really like: reassurance, acknowledgment and a hug. Tit for tat does not work other than a temporary feeling of having made things even again. I would really take this advice to heart. Thanks Ripley

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Submitted by puttingupwithdr... on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 1:11pm

Thank you for the advice, but, I dont want another pic of her and I am sure as hell it isnt going to be in my bedroom. What is up with men that cannot cut the strings with the whole ex thing. He says he hates the ex and appears to but my god what is the attraction with this teen age kid? I dont care if it is important to him or not there is no place in our home for his ex family other than her two useless kids that I have to deal with at this time.

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Submitted by puttingupwithdr... on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 10:07am

I do not want anything to do with any of his ex extended family. they are trouble makers, ungrateful, and do not have enough manners to say thank you. His ex wife is nothing but a pity myself drunk that cannot even take her almost 18 yr old overnight so we could have an evening to ourself. This kid is dirty, in the middle of our business all the time, and extremely obnoxious. I certainly do not want a pic of his cousin on his mothers side sitting on my mantle. It was an accident with the windex and I threw the pic and I do not know what the hell happened to the other pic and he is accusing me of taking that one too and I did not. And personally I dont give a shit if he ever finds it and it is not going in my bedroom on my mantle anyway. So I took all my pics of my grandchildren and put them on my dresser not his f.....n walls. So he can go to hell, and by the way I called in work today because I am so pissed and couldnt sleep all night because of his assholish attitude about the ex retards that he has been divorced from that family for 13 yrs, what the hell is up with tha?

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Submitted by puttingupwithdr... on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 1:14pm

Maux, I love your pic, at first I thought it was my fiances ex wife lol. Toooo funny!!! Glad to see sk have not taken away your sense of humor. Sometimes I wonder about my own sense of humor due to all the bull shit.

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Submitted by puttingupwithdr... on Fri, 10/28/2011 - 1:17pm

Maux, I love your pic, at first I thought it was my fiances ex wife lol. Toooo funny!!! Glad to see sk have not taken away your sense of humor. Sometimes I wonder about my own sense of humor due to all the bull shit.