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Pure Paradise's picture

This child is 6 and he is a liar, rude, manipulator, spoiled, disrespectful just to name a few. I do everything possible to be nice. It doesn't work. My BF and I constantly argue because no matter what I do for this precious boy its not good enough for my BF. I could be a little nicer he says. Try being nice to a little brat who doesn't listen to you is very difficult. I know it will be this kid that separates us. The problem is if I leave he wants our son half the time too. I don't want to be without my son half the time. I am afraid he would be just as bad as my BF son. My BF just doesn't have good parenting skills. He loves his children but his son walks all over him. My BF will be laying on the couch watching tv and his son will kick him in the face for no reason. He will walk up and punch him in the balls for no reason. The boy will pick up the hose outside and my BF will say please don't spray me! The kid will wait til he turns his back and spray him. My BF says he gets mad and his son knows he is mad but he has no consequences. The kid was told leave your earring in your ear its bedtime, go to sleep! He takes it out and losses it. What does my BF do? Takes him out and buys him a new one! Are you kidding me? If he had listened he would not have lost his earring. Just one example of how he constantly rewards bad behavior. My BF will say he isn't that bad. Compared to what? LOL. He is one of those kids that none of my family or friends want to be around.

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Willow2010's picture

How long have you been with BF?

And is this a boy or girl child? At one point you say it is a boy, but then you say the child has earrings...?

Pure Paradise's picture

Smile I have been with my BF a little over 2.5 yrs. The child is a boy but has a earring, just one but I know I didn't think it was a good idea.

Pure Paradise's picture

I totally agree. I have tried to help. Just the basic like be consistent and give him consequences he just can't stick to anything he says. It drives me crazy. Yes I have considered leaving. He is a good man. He is good to me and tries his best to make me happy. Our main problem is his son who isn't going anywhere.

Willow2010's picture

Ah...earring. I thought it said earrings.

I agree with what you said. Counseling for sure.

Pure Paradise's picture

He wanted it done. He is a very weird child when it comes to dressing and stuff. He wears dress shirts and ties to school. He wants to put black halloween make-up on his eyes when we go out. It's embarrassing my BF says he is Goth. Give me a break. The kid needs help!

Pure Paradise's picture

I am brutally honest to my BF about his son and what I think he does wrong and what he should do with his son. It's to the point now that he says I am like the school and the teachers and I too am picking on his son. I should be nicer. He now tells me he doesn't want my help and he will raise his son the way he wants. I even told him I think his son is going to end up in jail someday because he is teaching him he doesn't have to do what he is told and he doesn't follow rules