Yep, when BM is banging her flavor of the month she is NEVER in our business, give SO extra time with the skids. She often takes advantage of it and is ALWAYS asking for favors to watch the kids on weekends that are not ours. Now that she is mixed up with a married man she seems to be more in our business then ever before.

BM was always nice as pie when she was trolling for men in bars. Mainly because she always wanted DH to keep SS all the time.

BUT…when she would find a guy that wanted to do more with her than a one night stand, she would try and make that gut the “daddy” and screw over DH.

Definitely less in our business. As an example, we were supposed to get the skids at 6 pm on Wednesday before Thanksgiving. She calls around noon saying that she has to get new tires and DH can meet her at the tire place and pick up the skids at 3. Lo and behold, when he gets there, he goes to help them get their bags out of the back of the minivan and there are extra suitcases. He just looked at BM and commented how most people don't need luggage to get new tires and all she had to do was ask him to pick them up early so she and her BF could go out of town instead of concocting a lie (her tires were not new and they were still old yesterday). She got all huffy and said it was none of his business. He just laughed at her!

BM is definately less up DHs ass now that she has her boy toy (17 years her junior) Of course everyone in the free world knows this will NOT last so I know it's only a matter of time before she rears her nasty head again. But thankfully my SS is older (13.5) so while she is romping around with boy toy, he just stays home alone or goes to friends (read she doesn't need DH to babysit)

Although who knows? maybe I'm wrong, maybe BM and boy toy are sitting home every day/night spending quality time with SS, singing Kumbaya and making paper chains for the Christmas tree and I'm just a snarky bitch.

Yeah, I doubt it...

OMG, do we have the same BM?!!! This is her exact behavior. Everything is quiet and normal and fine, until BM breaks up with yet another BF. And then Holy Hell, the shit hits the fan. She doesn't even have to tell us when she breaks up with her BF, we just know because she goes ape shit on us.

And yes, it is definitely all about control. Probably why all of her complaints about me lately have started with how controlling I am of my BF, let me tell you how little control I have over him! My goal in life isn't to control a man, it is to work as a team, make decisions together, support him in his decisions, give him space to be himself and not dictate how he should be living his life. Oh wait, maybe that's why we have a happy, normal, drama free relationship. But for her, everything is about control. She is overly controlling of her daughter, her BFs, tries to control my BF and me, she tries to control SD10's athletic coaches, teachers and anybody else. She thinks she knows everything, but can't hold up a mirror and see that she is almost 30 years old, no job, no home, no BF, no friends and lives in her mother's basement.

I get pissed off most of the time, but I have learned that I could be any woman in the world including Mother Teresa and she would still say the awful things she says about me, so I try not to take it personally. Then, I look at her life and then I look at my wonderful life and I just laugh.

BM here's husband has a job that keeps him away month on/month off. I always know when her husband is gone without anyone telling us because 1/SS (10) has trouble sleeping at our house (BM lets him sleep in her bed when her husband is out of town) and 2/she starts stirring crap up. It's annoying but predictable.

Good Question!! I've wondered this myself. Here's a quick breakdown of the relationship cycle of our dear BM: :sick:

BM + new BF x (less than) 6 months = All Good in the 'Hood or Happy Days

BM - BF = Suckfest for EVERYONE (Like PMS on Steroids, starts making plans to leave the state immediately post-break up)

BM + BF x (equal to or less than) 3 months = Tru Luv 4 Eva (aka "Here's your new daddy!! Fuck that other dude, whathisname? Oh, your father. We don't need HIM anymore!" or "NO you can't see your kid! Don't you know what "CUSTODIAL" means? That I'm in charge!!")

BM + BF x (more than) 3 months = Here Comes The Bride!! (aka "Hope I'm not showing in the wedding pics!")

BM + new DH + new baby = "What other kids?!"

BM + new DH + new baby x (approximately) 6-12months = Fighting, drinking, cheating, divorce

BM (newly divorced) = To my DH: "You're so unsupportive!! You're a terrible father and don't DESERVE to see MY daughter!! Fuck your bitch wife!!" --Runs to nearest State office for welfare and CS mod--

It would be funny if it wasn't a completely accurate depiction of BM's patterns with men. Unfortunately, SD has the same problems with highly charged arguments and cheating in her relationships, the only difference is that she doesn't have any kids....yet.