Eating Disorders - Anyone with experience?
We are concerned that SD16 is heading toward or has an eating disorder. I'm not at all surprised as she has been in need of counseling for many years. I understand that it's more about the emotional needs than the food issues that really drive it. What I am looking for is some first hand experience on how to handle the discussions that are necessary. Not that I talk to her at all because she prefers to pretend I don't exist but I would like to be able to help DH navigate this subject a little.
What kind of things should we be doing to encourage a more healthy attitude toward food? What kind of conversation should we steer away from? We have already initiated the discussion with her doctor and are awaiting a follow-up appointment.
Any one? PM me if you'd prefer to keep your input private.
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From what I understand from
From what I understand from my friend who has anorexia that its a control issue. You can control what you put in your body when you can't control everything else. She also believes there is a link to autism and her eating disorder. Type A personality and perfectionist are also trends.
My partner's nephew has an eating disorder. He's rail thin and can eat no wet food. His mother had bulemia and would make wretching sounds whenever she would fed him his babyfood.
Now my SD15 is tall and thin. she is a size zero. Her dad is tall and thin. Her mom is thin right now but she used to be a good 260 lbs and went on diet pills. She fears that her daughter will become fat so she makes her get on the scale and does cellulite checks and makes her go on diets to lose a whopping 5 lbs and I just hate that
My sister had bulimia and my
My sister had bulimia and my parents tried talking to her and trying to not let her binge, so she wouldn't purge, but that didn't work. When we got dropped off at school she would go straight for the bathroom, she would hide containers of vomit in her room, etc. it was bad...the only thing that finally helped was going to therapy. They almost did an inpatient month long therapy but decided not to and went with a very intensive out patient therapy, I think she went to individual and group therapy multiple times a week. Also, I would watch her internet access, I know my sister fed her bulimia with online blogging sites that encourage it and everyone flaunts about how skinny they are, how many times they've purged etc. it's terrible.
Good luck to you, DH and your SD, it's a tough road, and not only for the person with the illness.
Good tip about the internet
Good tip about the internet access. Thanks ! I'm guessing talking will do no good here either. She needs professional help.
I used to be anorexic. It was
I used to be anorexic. It was a lot of control and fear. I feared being out of control with food. I would confirm that fear by binging at times, the would be even stricter with food. I would weigh everything I ate and workout for hours every day.
My parents talking to me never helped. I felt that they just didn't understand my "healthy" eating
I read a book called Fed Up, which helped and started working with a dietician/trainer who was very motivating and made me see that eating more and working out to build muscle wouldn't make me fat. Now after 2 babies, I'm a little overweight, but I have a healthy relationship with food now.
I would recommend finding a professional and not trying to pressure her or get angry at her.
Thank you ! It's nice to
Thank you ! It's nice to hear from someone who's been there first hand. We get the same attitude, she is just eating "healthy", but constricting her calorie intake way below what she needs to maintain a healthy weight. Hopefully her dr will recommend some directed training with a professional who can break thru to her. Glad to hear you are in a better place now. I can see it's a stuggle.