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Submitted by preachercassie on Sat, 02/26/2011 - 12:44pm

I am here because at this point it is better to have my face stuck in the internet then engage in any family acttivity. Every time we do something as a family it allways turns into a fight and for some reason it allway ends up being my fault. I have an out of controle 14 yr old ss and a 13yr old sd who is so selfish about her daddy I can't stand it. Just hearing her voice grates on my every nerve. I hate being like that but this is why I am here not doing things with them. It is taring my husband ani appart.

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Submitted by buttercookie on Sat, 02/26/2011 - 1:01pm

hate to say this but as long as your husband allows his kids to act like this and treat you like they do you really aren't together. He's allowing them to be the wedge. I have a feeling your around for free sex, laundry, cleaning and cooking. If you were around for more than that he'd treat you better and make his kids behave. I know its harsh and yes I had to deal with this when my skid lived here. I was ready to bolt until husband had a "come to jesus" moment and realized his kids didn't give a crap about him and if I left he was going to be a lonely old man who gave it all away to please snot nosed brats who probably wouldn't visit him after he ran out of money.

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Submitted by preachercassie on Sat, 02/26/2011 - 1:38pm

I agree with ya I understand what you are saying and it is all true. Thaat is exzactly how I feel. Is I am just here to be a made and built in babysitter. Well not no more I told him to day the shit stops "his Kids his problem" I am done. I work nights and just got up well he had cooked breakfast for the kids and left mind in the toaster oven he told them it was mind and those little pig when in there and ate all the bacon but one pice he left me and do you think that they would even say sorry no! My sd is laughing about it. That is the last draw I love my husband and I made a vow to him but I did ask for his kids to move in with us his sorry exw did she can take care of them and I am not going to anymore. I hate to say it but I know my ss will be in jail by the time he is 16 and by the time my sd is 16 she will be pregnant. I can see it comming and I am not going to be responablle. I quit.

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Submitted by Stupid on Sat, 02/26/2011 - 6:43pm

Know how you feel. SS17 is a underage drunk and druggie. He steals all the time. everyone knows it no one does anything about. It is like watching a train coming and everyone is on the tracks looking at each other and saying "why aren't you stopping that train." I thought I was stupid :O SS16 is just a lap dog for SS17. When SS17 is around he has no thought of his own just follows SS17 every move. I live with 5 males and I have the only balls! If you feel that strongly about leaving. STOP THINK Don't pack and leave you need to extract yourself carefully. start putting money back in a account he knows nothing about. start taking items that are precise to you a little at a time to a friends. Think about this if he treats you bad now he will go bolistic when you tell him it is over.

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Submitted by preachercassie on Sat, 02/26/2011 - 9:40pm

I have my own account he can get to and I have thing at friends already. I have left this man twice before because of HIS KID sd13 lied to a pastor about me and her dad call her on and she said she NEVER did that. That I am the one that lies and I do it just to get her in trouble. When I left he called me everyday and came to see me every other day he would be telling me one the phone how much of a hard time he was having with her and he wanted me home he told me he loves me and I told him it was his to deal with.and that he was getting a taste of what she is realy like. the he keeps sayinng to me it is not his fault the kids are like this and he is being punished too. The sad thing is that it is true. The bm had no right having kids in the first place she.she has the mentality of a 12 year old. When she was with my dh she used to do things like bang her face into the windowcills and then go tell people that my dh beat on her. I know this because I know people who had seen her do it. Then she finaly convenced the church he beat her up and they moved her out and hid her out for 2 years. My dh had to hirer a PI to find the kids and when he did he only had visits every other weekend. This whent on from the time the kids where 2 and 3 untill about 3 years ago and at that point our sd wanted to move in with us because her brother was hitting her all the time. Then my ss came a year later. Then my ss moved back with his bm because he did not want to follow our rule and he did what he wanted at his bm. Now we have both kids because my ss has been suspeded from school about 8 times sense january and has thertaned his mom and another child that he was going to kill them with a pair of sissors. So bm said she can't handle him and sent him back to live with us. I love my dh and I don't understand how to fix it. I just want to put the kids in the car and drive them to their bms house knock on her door and say deal with you problem. take your brats and stuff them up your ass. Then go home get my dh and move as far a way as I can. I want to have the life I had with my dh before the kids invaded our happy home. I know it sound bad and as a preacher I am suppost to be forgiving but I just don't know how much more I can take of this nut case who totaly ruined her kids and now wants us to fix it.