My Dh went again for the 3 day visit this weekend. And we are getting very upset with the school. And I know some of it is unwarranted but we still not happy with them about a few things.

1) A nurse told my Ss that he had to wear the briefs (aka diapers) because if he didn't, the other children would need to be hospitalized. And that my Dh had said he needs to listen to them. What my Dh actually said was that only make him wear them if he is comfortable, don't force him. Then Ss bitterly lashed out on Friday at my Dh saying the seeing him in diapers must be really funny. Then my Dh went and asked the staff how they got him to put them on and found out the truth. So my Dh went and told Ss that he didn't need to wear them if he didn't want to but Ss said he is not going to be the reason that people get sick because he can't keep his a** closed.

My Dh said he yelled at the staff. They apologized but it is still upsetting. And Ss hasn't even been doing the electro-stimulation since he got here so it's never going to heal.

2) Ss had to get two stitches Saturday night after an older autistic boy got violent with him. He got a bruise on his side and a torn nipple. The doctor said its not a big injury and will heal just fine. My Dh was there to comfort Ss in the hospital. Apparently, Ss just shut down and didn't cry or make eye contact with anyone. Not even my Dh. The staff said the boy had never been violent before. Luckily Ss did not provoke the situation. And he didn't hit the boy back. My Dh yelled at the staff again. That is twice in one day.

All this isn't really helping my Dh with wanting to bring Ss home. It is just making a stronger case for him to bring Ss back here.

Ss isn't calling us during the week like he is supposed to. He is not replying to any of our emails. He is barely talking to my Dh when he goes to see him several hours for three days. All he does is sit under a tree on the grounds and sleep. He has failed the four classes he was taking online. We expected this because he stopped doing the lessons once he got there. This means he will take a year more to graduate high school. If he goes back to classes in September that is.

It is just a hopeless situation. Before my Dh left Sunday evening, Ss gave him a piece of paper that said "You probably don't care but can you take me to Waikiki. And can it be a real trip this time? I want to see it once in my life."

The "real trip" is obviously referring to my Dh lying about a road trip and taking him to the facility. We aren't sure why he wants to see Waikiki specifically. He has never been there with my Dh or his mother. My Dh showed the note to a doctor in the facility and they sounded worried. That some people try to complete their "bucket lists" when they are suicidal.

So they moved Ss to a room with surveillance inside, including the washroom. I am just expecting Ss to be upset about this now. My Dh told Ss he would think about the trip. The facility said make it a reward and that Ss can go if he makes some key improvements. So my Dh sent Ss an email saying this and Ss replied with "Whatever. Just don't take me then."

They said once Ss reaches his lowest point he will start getting better. But its like he is in a free-fall in a bottomless pit. When does it start getting better? I wish I hadn't raised my hopes about this place. It is just disappointing me more every update we get.