One day about 4 years ago when I was pregnant we took my teenager and her friends to Dublin for a concert. SO went in with them because they weren't 16 yet. I sat in the lobby of a nearby hotel surfing the web. One of my google searches brought me to a board, not unlike this one, for people, mostly women to talk about all kinds of parenting, pregnancy, separation, etc issues.

I started reading through some of the things and I found a post from a woman whining because her ex hadn't gotten her anything for mother's day and blaming it on his gf. She went on to complain that said gf took the skids shopping to buy christmas gifts for the father and then, in the last paragraph - there was my REAL name and nationality. She made derogatory remarks about Americans in general.

I searched on the username and I found hundreds of posts from her that were filled with absolute lies. She accused me of mistreating her children, she accused SO of 'turning his back on his daughters' when in reality he was in court every couple of months trying to get MORE access. She said some really, really nasty and completely untrue things about him and about me.

I watched and read for another 2 years without writing a single word. It was helpful to see what she was up to, what she was planning to do. I learned all about her phone sex with a friend of the family, she called her mother a loudmouth who couldn't be trusted, she called her sister pushy and bossy... Then, one day I read a post from her where she was saying the most unbelievable and untrue things, she made up an incident about me out of thin air. It never happened. It was a total fabrication. I'd had enough. I made a clever username that was a play on her username only stronger and I started asking questions designed to force her to either back down or dig herself in deeper with more elaborate lies. She chose to lie even more. Within an hour she KNEW beyond any doubt who I was - which was what I wanted.

She has never posted on that board again, at least not to my knowledge but I don't really look for her.

I kind of regret it because I did get some valuable information from reading her rantings.

Does anyone else know where their BM goes to vent? Do you have access to 'her side' that she tells others?