Pinkleton Divorce: The skids chapter

this is some shit. Stbx won’t communicate with me except in text. Okay whatever. I spoke some peace yesterday and blatantly said, “it’s more complicated for us to avoid eachother like this than just be civil. I’m not bitter or angry anymore because it won’t change anything. We just want different things in life and it’s not working together.” He responds with telling me the only thing he is upset about is that I never asked if I could say goodbye to his kids. i Told him if he wants to sit down together and tell them, that’s fine with me.. but I don’t know what to say to them by myself. He said “that’s not what I meant. Just forget it”

WHAT THE HELLLLL DID HE EVEN EXPECT?!? How do I tell a 6&7 year old goodbye forever when they don’t even know we are separating??? What on earth do you want me to say to these kids?! “Ok I wish you the best, see ya!”

Its all very typical and it reinforces why i don’t want to be with him anymore. It’s annoying. Frustrating. Draining. Exhausting. He’s starting to fight me on some things and I can’t stand him. I am doing everything I can to just keep my cool so I can power through and get that paperwork drawn up and signed.

send good vibes. I need them.

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Even in divorce he's still

Even in divorce he's still upset that you supposedly aren't doing right by his kids.

Don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out, STBXH.

I think it would be kind to

I think it would be kind to the young children to have the whole- this isn't your fault, blah, blah, blah- but at this point your stbex has probably already just gone with Pinkleton doesn't love us anymore. I might reach out to BM depending on that relationship.... maybe see if she willing to bring them out for doughnuts or something so you can give hugs and say goodbye.

Yes I had the same thought as

Yes I had the same thought as almostgone. The ONLY thing that he is upset about is that you didn't ask to say goodbye to his kids? So not the fact that you're gone then?!

That's a bitter pill to swallow I'm sure but in the long run with that one sentence he's surely made it easier for you to let go completely. He's also proved with that one sentence that you have absolutely made the right call.

Sending you hugs and lots of good vibes. Go be free

Any way that you

Any way that you can send him a clip from the Sound of Music? You know the bit. "So long, farewell, auf weidersehen, adieu..."

Seriously, were you supposed to have a long and touching good bye scene? They are little kids. Why put them through that? Far better for their father to just explain that you are going to be living somewhere else and everything is fine. The end.

Just another "zing"

at you...similar to the photo that the Gir taped to Chef"s laptop of the "happy family" with a note "this is what you'll be giving up" (premonition of PAS) even though SHE wanted a divorce.

Pure projection and the underlying theme that you"don"t care about MY kids"

Whew... just be glad you didn

Whew... just be glad you didn't waste any more time than you already have. Clearly this wouldn't have gotten better.

He's upset that you didn't

He's upset that you didn't ask to say good-bye to his kids? That's what he thinks should be on the forefront of your mind right now? That's weird.

He's getting super petty and

He's getting super petty and super bitter, so i am doing my best to let it all roll off me and show NO emotion. He WANTS me to get angry, so i refuse. I want to drop all communication completely, but it is difficult when we still live in the same household and I have two dogs. I just want to FAST FORWARD TO MOVE OUT DAY.

Yeeks!

Hang in there! I wanted to tell you that I’m no longer in a step situation either. I did change my name back. There was no way I was keeping the ex’s name. It was stupid and hard to pronounce name anyways. Just stay focused and keep in swimming. I’d repeat that daily while I was escaping. You’re gaining your freedom back! You’ll love that peace that you feel!

Pretty much every time I've

Pretty much every time I've talked to someone I've broken up with I've been given confirmation that breaking up was the right move. Congrats on getting your confirmation.

I kind of think maybe he was hoping he could guilt trip you into staying by reminding you of his kids though? Men like that never seem to truly get that no, you dont actually feel the same about his kids as he does. He probably figures that since he felt guilty leaving his kids mom you'll also feel guilty.

He wants you to ‘say goodbye’

He wants you to ‘say goodbye’ to kids who don’t even know you’re separating? Are they still having visitation in your home? Definitely confirmation you’re doing the right thing if all he cares about right now is how this is affecting them instead of YOU! They aren’t your responsibility, why would you be making them your priority right now? Some people honestly just can’t be helped, he’s def one of them!