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Had a few questions on my last post late last night so heres a bit of an update.
Washed my boys and my hair in tea tree oil shampoo last night and finished off with a few drops of tea tree oil rubbed on our scalps. No lice or nits in our hair at all yet. I have a coconut oil conditioner to follow up the tea tree oil shampoo tonight. Hopefully those three things will make our heads unappealing enough that we don't catch her lice at all.
My washer and drier are going non stop. Maybe its wrong of me, but my focus is on containing the infestation and making sure no one else catches it, rather than sanitizing SDs room. I work full time so there's only so much I can clean/ sterilize a day. I did my bedding and my boys bedding Monday night and I sterilized the living room last night. I am working my way back to SD's room...one room at a time.
I told dh about the tea tree oil shampoo last night as a preventative measure when he called (he works second shift) and his first response? Good, so you washed sd's hair with it? No, I washed every one else's hair with it, so we all don't catch them. He was agast that I wouldn't have done sd's hair first. Never mind that she has the RID in her hair and shouldn't be washing it in between her two treatments. Second of all, its a preventative measure to repell them, not a treatment to kill them once you already have them. It just agitated me that we, the rest of his family, aren't even on his radar. All he sees is SD, who cares if we all catch them too.
He was pissed this morning that I told bs4 about the lice. Demanding to know why on earth I would tell him that.....mum, so he doesn't go I to her room? So he isn't hugging up on her touching his head to hers? So he can not catch the lice too? Ss11 knows about the lice....why can't bs4?
Questions from my fist post...
Her hair is super curly. When straightened it falls mid back. It is heat straightened right now due to the lice, there is absolutely no way to get a lice comb through her hair when curly.
Dh categorically refuses to cut her hair. I get him to o agree to a 1-2 inch trim every other year. I have washed my hands of her hair for the past year. Both due to dhs refusal to let me cut it shorter to make it Kore manageable and SDs stank attitude towards me and her refusal to put any effort into its upkeep. Other than verbal reminders to wash and brush it, I only do her hair for parties and pictures
Sil has been handling all the de-lousing treatment so far, and I have no intention of getting involved. I was away when this all went down last weekend so sil did the initial shampoo and first two comb outs. Dh said he is bringing her back to sil next weekend for the second round of shampooing.
Skids are leaving for summer visitation to mil in two weeks so I am really just trying to keep my home and my kids hair lice free until then. Then I can shut up the skids rooms for a few weeks to kill the lice before I deep clean their rooms.

Willow2010's picture

Your DH sounds like a lazy brat. all of your post have been about what YOU and SIL are doing. What is your DH doing?

PeanutandSons's picture

He has done nothing basically. He bought the RID kit and washed and dried her bedding, that's it. He is so friggin lazy with this sort of stuff.

3LittleDragonflies's picture

Don't take this the wrong way, but I hope he gets lice and has to sleep on a plastic tarp on the couch for 2 months...

Maybe that'll put some spunk into his step to be more active in the treatment Blum 3

PeanutandSons's picture

He's more concerned with SD not feeling embarrassed. He wouldn't call the school of o let them know she came home with lice....wouldn't call the daycare. Doesn't want SD to be singled out and embarrassed. He isn't making her tie her hair up at all. She is going to school with it flowing free just in a headband, because we don't want to hurt her little feelings by telling her she needs to tie it up and contain it so the lice aren't going everywhere.

3LittleDragonflies's picture

:jawdrop:

School is going to be PISSED if she knowingly goes to school with lice. My high school had a policy that you had to wear your hair in a tight braid if you had lice and had to be treating it at home. I mentioned I had lice for 2 months when I was 16? Yeah, all that was during the school year. November and December. They checked my hair every Monday and if I had had one more failed test I would have had a medical suspension until they were gone.

Want to talk embarrassing?

(I was one of seventeen girls that had lice... my entire gym class. How did we all get infected? One of the girls came to school with lice and had her hair down because her mother didn't want to embarrass her. She spread them like a darn wildfire. Needless to say, it'd have been a lot less embarrassing for her if her mom had stuck with the school rules and kept her home for two days and then had her wear her hair in a braid until they were gone...)

PeanutandSons's picture

He found them on Saturday morning so she was technically home from school two days before she went back (Sat and Sun) and she's one the treatment....so I think she is technically within school guidelines. Not sure if they have a braid rule or not.

Just seems like common courtesy to inform the school and daycare so a note can be sent home for the other parents to check their kids heads. I am sure they wouldn't put her name out there...just say that lice were found. But nope....dh won't hear of it.

I am sure her whole class is infested at this point. That's where she had to have picked it up for none of our other kids to have gotten them too. That's the only place she is by herself away from the other siblings.

Sunflower1's picture

Sounds weird, but my mom used baby oil when I was a kid. It helped her to work with my long curly hair. It also helped to comb out the eggs.

Elizabeth's picture

I'm just going to sigh and say that, unfortunately, you may be the one responsible for this situation after all. That's what happened to me. SD came over with lice, BM refused to let us cut her waist-length hair. DH treated her so many times with RID I was afraid she was going to have permanent brain damage, but every time she went back to BM (50/50 custody) she got reinfested. I ended up taking over and doing the mayo and olive oil treatments, along with picking eggs, every day for like a week. It was a pain in the backside, but it needed to be done and nobody else was stepping up to the plate.