Here is the deal. I get married to a woman with two kids. We move out of state for my job. My wife has an official divorce from her ex with court ordered child support. The wife reports to me that the ex NEVER paid child support. Wife CONSTANTLY told me that ex NEVER paid. Her ex is an attorney with a busy practice. Wife alleges that ex did NOT pay because he believes that she (my wife) cheated on him. Wife sells me a bill of goods...and purports a lack of support from the ex. Her oldest son has learning disability...her daughter is normal intelligence. My wife and I have a son together. I paid for her daughter to attend private school at 18K per year for two years. Our son attends the same school at 16K per year. Wife was additionally receiving 4K per month from me for spending money. Finances are out of control...I express concern to wife...we argue all of the time. Wife then takes daughter out of private school and returns back to home state...leaving our son with me. Wife remains in home state for two years...We reconcile.....wife moves from home state again.....and asked that I help fund step daughter's car....just a co-sign, mind you. I do....wife then refuses to make car payments...wife then quit her full-time job as a nurse to work per diem to collect more money in a pay check....and cancels the health insurance for daughter that was provided by the employer...I then pick up health insurance for her daughter.....

Currently...wife has two good paying jobs as a nurse, but will NOT obtain health insurance for daughter...so I pay. Wife will NOT pay daughter's car note, so I pay..car note 400 per month insurance 2200 per year. Wife received $67,000 in alimony from me in our previous filing...and she did NOT pay tax on this money...and refuses to pay..so I paid....wife has burned through about 487K in cash....and as the real estate market crashed..finances got tight...wife comments..."I do NOT want to talk about money..I do NOT think I should have to pay tax on the alimony you gave because I thought we were together. I don't care what the court order said. You have employees that don't work so fire one or two of them....and you will have some more money."

My view....the ex husband of my wife refuses to help his daughter...(as reported by wife) and wife will not pay all of her obligations for her daughter either. Daughter is 21 years old and in college...and if I don't pay there is NO peace in the home...none....and I have been foolish to continue to write these kinds of checks....

I filed for divorce...we went through a custody evaluation...joint physical and legal custody recommended after the review. Wife then advised that she does NOT have any money for child support for our son. Our son still attends private school and tuition has increased to 1400 per month. Wife then wants spousal support at 3K per month...and declared that I should pay the tax on the money...because she does NOT have it. She additionally advised that our son could go to a public school...and this will free more money. Our son loves his school and has some nice friends...is in the 4th grade and started there in pre-K.

Looking for comments...I am more shocked at myself