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Submitted by Parrotmom on Tue, 08/10/2021 - 1:33pm

So it's been over 3 months now since he replied to SD message and there has been absolutely nothing back. Is this a good thing? Or is this just the calm before the storm? The first few weeks it hung over me like a black cloud but now I hardly think about it, which is a luxury as the whole situation was always playing in the back of my head! I'm under no illusions I know it won't be the last time we hear from her but for now I'm hoping she's found someone else to make miserable so she leaves us alone!

Watch this space! 

He replied.....

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Submitted by Parrotmom on Tue, 05/11/2021 - 5:40am

So after having this enormous black cloud hanging over me for what felt like an eternity H replied to SD message. A firm but fair, this isn't going to be a walk in the park message, making it clear he has other commitments she needs to except before anything can happen but also saying he is willing to try to rebuild thier relationship if she can except what he has said. That was yesterday....... She hadn't replied yet! 

Damn you anxiety!

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Submitted by Parrotmom on Sat, 04/24/2021 - 1:48am

Since that message my anxiety has been through the roof. I'm an emotional wreck, I can't shake this over riding sadness and feel so down and fed up. My husband really doesn't know what to do, I'm not 100% sure he even knows why I feel so bad, as we don't really talk that much about SD even though I messaged him 2 days ago with my heartfelt feelings to which he completely agreed with everything I said but there was a but at the end of his reply.... like I've said in past posts... he's a good man, he wouldn't dismiss her and just move on.

Thank you

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Submitted by Parrotmom on Thu, 04/22/2021 - 2:55am

I would just like to say a massive thank you to all of you, before I had this blog I would just sit and cry and let the sadness take over and now, although there is still tears i find some peace in knowing I'm not alone and all of your advice is so helpful in helping me process the thoughts in my head. I don't have any friends that have stepkids so have never had anyone able to talk to and who could give me sound advice.

Well its happened.....

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Submitted by Parrotmom on Tue, 04/20/2021 - 2:12am

Its been a while since my last post, things had been quiet on the old step daughter front. She has her son, a boyfriend and a new home, then......Yesterday was the day she contacted my husband after 9 years of bearly any contact (when there was any contact it was shitty messages making sure she made it clear she blamed me for all of this!) It was a sickingly nice message saying how lifes is too short and how she would love to build a relationship with him... no mention of our kids, just him.

I hate tuesdays

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Submitted by Parrotmom on Mon, 02/10/2020 - 10:11am

My anxiety levels are through the roof today (monday) as I know tomorrow my mother in law comes round for an hour or so, she has done this for 14 years! Since splitting with father in law, she still sees SD, not regular... I dont think but certainly has phone contact (photos,messages,facebook) She has always had something to say about the 'perfect grandchild' (the sun truly shines outta SD ass in her eyes!) I sit dreading her name being mentioned as I know I wont be able to hold my tongue if she trys to interfere.

Feeling sick to the stomach

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Submitted by Parrotmom on Thu, 02/06/2020 - 5:30am

Is it normal to feel physically sick at the thought of SD being back in our lives afresh 8 years of nearly no contact! (3 messages all blaming me for one thing or another.. last one reading, word for word..." All this cause you cant stand up to your wife because we all know shes the one with the problem with me" 

The thought of seeing her or knowing my husband is spending time with this poisonous person churns my stomach. I have never stopped him seeing her. He has always said shes like her mom, nasty, vindictive, poisonous... he should know! 

Just some details

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Submitted by Parrotmom on Wed, 02/05/2020 - 10:18am

Just a few details so you can see the full picture...

SD was 2 when we got together.

She loved I let her do my hair and makeup, I'd sit for hours letting her put 10000000 bubbles in my hair. Her mom hated that SD would go home and be like "****** is great, ***** is this, ***** is that, to a point my husband had a few messages saying he should spend more time just with his daughter)

When I got pregnant with my first child is when she turned into the child of satan, kicking me, pinching me... nothing was EVER said! He just wouldnt tell her off.