This is How CoParenting Works in My House
A couple of weeks ago, SS10 charged $267 worth of porn to DH's work cell phone that SS was using as an alarm in his room (previous blog). Last night after DH talks to SS10 about talking about BM so much, asks SS why he still has a Facebook page (we had already gotten rid of one). BM made him one. NICE. I am not going to go there on why a 10 year old shouldn't have a Facebook, I already know why and it isn't my problem. Anyway, SS goes on to tell DH about what he posted on his page all weekend. So DH asks if thats all he did while he was at his mom's actual house (because they went swimming, ect.). SS10 says yes, I am always on the computer at Mom's house. Come to find out, he's on there UNATTENDED. NICE...considering what just went down with the cell phone and goodness only knows WHO he is talking to on Facebook. Nice co parenting BM, and DH good thing you bring this up to BM, GREAT PARENTING, WAY TO GO!!!
I really wish DH would start going private with all of this stuff because its really making me mad. They are idiots!!!
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Wow, that sounds a lot like
Wow, that sounds a lot like our BM!
SS10 is on the internet ALL day (or playing video games) unattended. Who knows what he's doing or who he's talking to!
Yep, ididots!
Hey hon, did I miss something
Hey hon, did I miss something did you two reconcile? I thought you were moving out.
August 1st, so for now, I get
August 1st, so for now, I get to watch DH kind of "get it", and I get to listen to all the bull crap because I am still living there.
same with my SS10 and SS8.
same with my SS10 and SS8. Xbox live accounts and god knows who the eff is on there. I regularly check out who they are friends with just in case and if I have a suspicion I ask them who and why.
at least me and BF are adamant about no FB until 14. And if they want one they have to tell us the password. Altho I have a keybreaker on the computer anyway and super high restricted user admins for each SS. Not sure about BM as BF said she was always against over 18 games and things so it was a shock when they came to us in January saying they play COD and crap like that. I guess its cheaper to let them play XBOX then pay a sitter while you get hammered.
SD14 had a facebook page in
SD14 had a facebook page in the 6th grade. I raised a stink and said it was inappropriate and no one listened to me. So now she is posting terrible pictures on there and DH has been defriended by her. We can still see because she is friends with my son. DH can't even look at it now, because it upsets him. Tried to tell you. But, you said I was picking on your child. He swore he would monitor it and take it from there. He rarely did and BM definitely doesn't. This kid is on a fast track to nowhere.
I have learned that I may have been right about all of this a long time ago, but saying I told you so, won't help DH now. But, trust me that day is coming, because I am still pissed that no one took me seriously.
Oh, the thing about Facebook
Oh, the thing about Facebook is that BM is SS's "friend". Well BM is a stripper and has some really nice pics of herself up there (not naked but sexually suggestive). NICE!!! Also, the stuff written on BM's page isn't quite role modelish. I understand that you talk to people from the past and they bring things up, but DELETE your child before you let them read what you do or did!!!
Pantera, that is just
Pantera, that is just horrible. It's a form of child abuse, IMO, the way these parents raise their children by the "non-parenting" method. Not only is it such a shame that your BM is such a loser and is not setting a good example for her children, it's also unacceptable that your DH just ignores your pleas to help his children (after all, he's the only good role model they have left, other than you, of course). I truly believe that this "non-parenting" method of raising children should literally be CRIMINALIZED!! It's a form of neglect, at its best and actual CHILD ABUSE also.
I wish you all the best with your move away from all of this chaos and drama that is involved in your DH's world. I see good things coming your way in the future - and you will look back at all of this one day and breathe a HUGE sigh of relief that you are no longer a part of such a dysfunctional world.
((((Pantera)))). We will always be here for you. I see August 1st & every day after that as a slow climb back to having normalcy restored in your life. Best wishes.
Oh god. I think about all the
Oh god. I think about all the crap SS/SS/SD might one day read about their BM or things she has posted and think their poor virgin eyes.
:sick:
OMG I thought I was the only
OMG I thought I was the only one that deals with this Facebook crap with skids. Ditto here.
BM lets SS12 go on xboxlive, Facebook, formspring, all of this online site crap - and he is completely unattended. Also, who knows what ELSE he's on that we don't know about because BM "hides" this from us while skids are there. My BF does absolutely NOTHING about it. Thinks his kids would NEVER look at porn, talk to strangers, post inappropriate pix or language on the different sites. Oh god, BF WAKE UP!!!!
I lovingly call this "head in sand" parenting (or really "head up ass" non-parenting).
BM also lets SDstb16 do the same thing - I also found out that she has a myspace page, too. Curses, loser-type posts. Ugh, it's all just so pathetic. MY BF just looks the other way.
Both of these kids are headed for Loserville and they ride on the Gravy Train with BM (collecting massive CS$$ from my BF all the while) to get there...ALL ABOARD!!!!