SS 40, SD 37, bioson 26, me..married 32 years... NOT even going to tell you how the beginning was, but it was painful. Took me some time to get used to blended family.. However we got thru it..... Forward 20 years: SD never got along with BM, BM didnt even know when my SD was gone for a week.... Me and SD grew very close.. At the age of 8 BM told my SD that she could move in with us, then after we bought clothes for school etc.. she said no.. Then, we requested the Friend of the Court for custody during summer months, we won.., BM did not like this, then manipulated the kids into thinking that if you go to Dads for the summer we will lose our house. We gave the kids the choice, didnt want them to feel that they were in the middle of something.,so they stayed home,, BM met someone... SD felt neglected..SD came to live with us at 15. .I had a wonderful relationship w/her.. Had many years of High School Cheerleading, etc.... always there for her.. Off to college, U of M, meets a man, now marriage..in another state far,,,.When it came time for all the pre Wedding and Wedding Celebrations, BM was right there. I WAS EXCLUDED!! You cannot imagine the HURT i felt,,,"but" i kept it inside, because this was her time...2 days after wedding I was #1 again, "I let it go" I just felt i was being over sensitive.. Life goes on... She is in labor having a daughter, Emergency circumstances.. like Death emergency... BM says " cant come ,,new husband cannot get anymore time off work"", so Her BF goes immediately, she is still in hospital, i go within 3 days mind u (i have a bs who is 13) she is still in hospital, but i stay at her house and clean, clean clean, (not the cleanest girl) and stay with her for a week..we remain extremely close, calls every Sat or Sun, (she lives in another state) MY BREAK FROM HER, was : I had been walking on eggshells for years, everytime we would visit, i watched everything i said or did, because, you never knew what would set her off...I am NOT a weak woman, however I would only see her and my grandkids maybe 3 times a year, so i wanted to keep the peace... Visited her November of 2014 (I took my SD to Phantom at age of 12, and she loved it) I thought it would be so cool to take SD and granddaughter to see it again,. She was COLD from the moment we saw her.... (((We are staying at her house, didnt rent a car, cuz we had the 2 days already mapped out))) Went to the theatre, she only took pics of her and our granddaughter, and i tried to get pics of all of us, BF came too.... and the pics she posted on FB said "Me and Sarah going to see Phantom" no mention of BF or SM, who planned and handled the surprise ".. Ok feeling hurt again.... On the way home, BF and grandchild in back seat, SD starts "texting" while driving and I am so against this... I said, "Please dont text while driving, and that started the ultimate argument.... she said" i wasnt texting , i was looking at my messages,,, I said "whats the difference??) She said "I will drop you off at the next exit, I have no problem with that" I said " Is it really necessary to talk to me like that?? She said "Well you pissed me off" That was "THE END" I still talk with her when she calls,.. We still see the grandkids on a regular basis.. BUT, I have no feelings left for her.. They are not there anymore.. I really dont care if i ever see or talk with her again.. Is something wrong with me..,,