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OverZoey's picture

Submitted by OverZoey on Wed, 06/06/2018 - 6:09am

DH and SD14 come over to discuss house rules and the possibility of moving back in.  He stays with me when he doesn't have his daughter and with his parents when he does.  More of a DH issue than a SD issue. She shows up in a pair of shorts and her ass is literally hanging out of them. I asked her where the other half of her shorts were... DH just rolls his eyes and says nothing. The next day we had a conversation about it. He admitted that he would have a problem with ME wearing shorts with my ass hanging out and would tell me I'm not leaving the house with them on (he wouldn't dare get away with telling me that) and even though he doesn't like her wearing them, he says he doesn't know why but "can't" tell her she can't wear them. He's so afraid of her getting mad at him.  Don't think this is going to ever change. 

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Ispofacto's picture

Submitted by Ispofacto on Wed, 06/06/2018 - 6:21am

Take a picture next time.  Giggle.  Tell him you are going to share it with someone (MIL?).  Shame him.  Refuse to go anywhere with them unless she is properly dressed.

queensway's picture

Submitted by queensway on Wed, 06/06/2018 - 10:16am

Some of these disney dads will never tell their snowflake daughters that they are doing or saying something that is inappropriate. This would just hurt their feelings and they are just to perfect to do that. Plus the word NO is a big no no to a SD. It is really sad that a father would rather his daughter walk around looking like a slut with her a$$ hanging out than say change your shorts. SMDH

Dovina's picture

Submitted by Dovina on Wed, 06/06/2018 - 10:52am

SD can engage in the most questionable behaviors , and still daddy will never say a word. Anyone else engaged in such behaviors would be scorned by him, anyone but SD. Sickening to watch.

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Submitted by notsobad on Wed, 06/06/2018 - 11:33am

Until he can either parent her or she’s out living on her own, no way she’s coming back. 

This was a sign from the heavens that he’s not ready yet. In fact I’m not sure I’d want to live with him even part time. 

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Submitted by secret on Wed, 06/06/2018 - 11:42am

My daughter has this pair of lacy black short shorts... she was wearing them one day at my place... I asked her WTF was she wearing, why was she wearing lingerie... she was like deer in headlights... said they`re PJ shorts... I said yeah, for an adult.. why was she wearing lacy pj shorts?

She said her dad bought them for her... I told her that in THIS house, she's not going to be walking around in shorts that I would wear to get sexy with my husband... she looked embarassed. I told ehr that if she wanted to wear that kind of stuff at her dad's, that was her choice, but that I won't have them looking like prosti-tots while in my care.

Then I messaged their dad, and asked him to please not send them over with lingerie as pj's anymore, that I felt it innapropriate. He said they're just shorts... I said I don't care, if they come back here, I'm tossing them.

I never saw them again.

I have no qualms about somewhat shaming my kids for what they choose to wear - if they feel ashamed wearing shorts with their arse hanging out, GOOD. Change them.