Did u have u own kids with dh? Regrets? Better?
I'm wondering how many if u had kids with dh, more so if u had ur own kids from a previous marriage? Did it help things , make them worse? Do u regret it or like having ur own family with him? All opinions welcome
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I like having my 2 kids with
I like having my 2 kids with him obviously, I did however terminate an unexpected pregnacy without telling him or anyone for that matter because I don't think we need one more person we're responsable for on our hands. He's mor hands on with our kids then he was with his first 2 kids because I don't just take everything on and assume because I am the mother I know best which was the dynamic in his first marriage, there fore I get help and he has a bond with his kids. He and his ex were also pretty young when they started their family and so I think aage and maturity help by the time the second round of kids come.
I have a 9 yr old daughter
I have a 9 yr old daughter from my ex husband, I have SD15 from DH and his ex and together we have a 3 yr old daughter and I feel like having her makes us a complete family. Although we love our kids from our ex's, having a child together for us at least makes things really great.
I think I would feel resentful if we did not have a child together like it was good enough for him and his crazy ex but not for us.
And my 9 yr old couldn't be happier. They have such a wonderful bond. Having my 3 yr old kinda makes it all worth it. Sometimes I get a crazy idea to have another one but unfortunately we had him fixed because I figured 3 kids was more than enough for me to handle.
The only downside is SD15 hates my daughter and the 3 yr old but thats her problem and I just ignore it. But I never let her babysit them.
So yes I am very happy we had a child together
Our surprise blessing is 7
Our surprise blessing is 7 months old. DH and i have children from previous relationships. It has been great overall, i wish we could have one more. But i also knew the baby would either make or break us. Knowing how i am and his lack of parenting with his own kid, i knew i would be planting my foot firmly down. The, look this is how its gonna be!
We have a baby. We have an "intact" family and im not gonna sacrifice the things our dd is suppose to experience with an intact family while we run around tryin to make it all better for the rest.
Example: Christmas. We are gonna have 3 Christmases. We could condense to 2, but dd deserves to open up with her mom n dad on Christmas morning.
That's shitty.
That's shitty.
I've told SO early on if we
I've told SO early on if we are to continue I want a baby. He didn't and was upset about the whole thing. We broke up for about month and then we got back together. He actually is looking forward to it now and talks about it. HE has actually joked that I could get inseminated via someone else, he'd help take care of it. Now he was joking, but my reply was "then what do I need you around for?"
He can't get you all excited then take it away. So horrible.