We are going to try to get a modification of our 8 year old custody orders in the fall. As of now our orders have 43/57 custody and BM has sole decision making. SD was 3 when the orders were set and DH had not spent any overnights with SD since the separation. We have attempted to find a lawyer to get them changed but didn’t push the issue when they said NO over and over again. We’ve had enough with BM being a controlling monger and it’s time, my SD sanity is at stake.