I have been married for almost 2 years now. I have two SD 18 and 9, each have different BM. The 18 yr old never calls or comes around unless she wants money, the 9yr old is here at least every other wknd if not every wknd. The BM of the 9yr old also has teen daughter who is friends with my 18 yr old SD. This makes for a very unpleasant situation as BM of 9 yr old speaks negatively about my husband and I in front of not only the 9 yr old but also the 18 yr old when she visits "her friend".