O/T: Weddings, not a Step thing

I hope it's okay to post something that isn't directly step or family related?

I've been watching 4 weddings, cause I love parties and like seeing all the new trends. I should have been a party planner.

What is this thing to have both parents walk the bride down the isle? I'm seeing it more and more. My SIL did it at her wedding 5 years ago.

I hate it.

It looks awkward having a person on each arm and trying to hold the bouquet. The isle isn't quiet big enough for everyone to move comfortably, especially if the gown is big or puffy.

I think all eyes should be on the Bride. She should be the focus of attention. To me it looks like Mom is trying to steal some of the spotlight.

I'm sure not everyone sees it like that and I'd love to hear different opinions.

BM told DH years ago (like when SD was 10) that she hated that only Dad got to give SD away. She feels that she raised her and she should give her away. So it could be that my view is tainted.

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Fun topic. So with my

Fun topic.

So with my wedding to my hubby, both my parents walked me down the aisle. Well, my mom walked and my dad was in his wheelchair, I was in the middle and we walked/rolled down the aisle. I was very happy to have them both at my side. My hubby's mom walked him down the aisle . My 18-year-old daughter was my bridesmaid so my hubby's father and her walked down the aisle as his father was his groomsman .

My ex blew it with his child so even though he was allowed to come to her wedding he was not allowed to walk her down the aisle. So she asked me to walk her down the aisle and wear a bright red dress, her favorite color .
There are no rules, it's all about family and the bride and groom feeling the best they can and receiving the love that they want on their special day .

I guess that's it in the end.

I guess that's it in the end. It's your wedding so you should do exactly what you want.

Really? You wore red? I must be so old fashioned. I thought red and white were big no nos?
I keep thinking of the grooms ex girlfriend showing up in a slinky red number. Look what you gave up big boy. LOL

You know, I was unsure at

You know, I was unsure at first. Red. But then I thought about it, it's her wedding so what do I really care about the color. I knew her future husband very well and I have loved her her entire life so I thought to myself yeah, why not, it's your day, it's your gig, going to wear what ever color makes her happy.

Do you know what the pictures came out so beautiful. And I am not very photogenic but I got to say I love the pictures, it was outdoors we had greenery all around. She looked exceptionally beautiful it was just fun and great. Details don't matter, it's the love that matters at the end of a day.

Did the bride and groomfeel love? Did the people watching the wedding feel the love? Love....it's all that matters at a wedding.

Great attitude. I'm sure it

Great attitude. I'm sure it was a beautiful wedding.

That's the thing so many people forget, me included, it's about them. The Bride and the Groom and what is important to them.
And Love, yes, when in doubt always choose Love.

sorry.. totally not in

sorry.. totally not in keeping with what this blog is about, but the 'wearing red at a wedding' thing made me remember this blog from a few years ago, so awful :O

http://www.steptalk.org/node/53290

Oh our BM will do that too

Oh our BM will do that too I'm sure! But then she's narcissistic and needs to be the centre of attention.

I've seen it on 4 weddings where both parents walk the groom down the isle. It looks just as dumb as the bride in my opinion.

I didn't realize I'm so much of a traditionalist.

I hate those and refuse to go

I hate those and refuse to go to them!

But then again I'm a fan of not finding out the sex. I like the element of surprise I guess.

I didn't think of it as being

I didn't think of it as being given away. I thought of it as having an escort which is a very nice custom to me. I had my nephew in a wheelchair take me down the aisle. Being twenty years my junior he could hardly give me away. But he was the male blood relative I felt closest to (and there were other factors) so I picked him and it felt joyous to do so.

FWIW, I don't care for the 3 people at a time down the aisle look, either. It looks forced and sort of ludicrous.